Feels like a good week to tell every non-binary person in the #Fediverse how amazing you are, and remind everyone here that non-binary identities are stunning, beautiful, individual, deep and go so far beyond the 'enby' or 'NB' stereotypes you may not believe unless you're talking with them to understand ... :heart_nb:
Well you're adored, amazing, you've taught me over the years and are still teaching me new things about gender ... including off-grid outside the binary. Plus you take personal authenticity to the very very max. Do I sound a fan? Well yes, cannot deny how much I think you all rock ... :flag_nonbinary: :butterfly_nonbinary:
Hi Fedi Family,
In 2008 Californians voted for Prop8 that defined marriage as the union of one man and one woman in the California constitution. While this was defeated in courts this draconian Prop8 language is still in the California constitution. Justice tHomas and the right wing SCOTUS is openly hinting at destroying precedent and trampling rights. If they overturned Obergefell - the Prop8 language in the California Constitution will act as a “trigger law”, raining havoc on queer families like mine across California.
Please spread the word to vote “YES” to repeal Prop8 (2008) from the California constitution in Nov 2024. Talk to your friends, family and colleagues about it.
I want to do an informal survey to get a sense of the age demographics of trans people and at what age they started transitioning or presenting openly. This is the UPDATED version of the earlier poll.
INSTRUCTIONS: Please answer this poll about your current age, then go down the thread to find the poll for your current age demographic and answer the second poll there about transition/presentation age.
Thanks ahead of time to all who participate! PLEASE BOOST
While some of us knew from a very, very young age that we were trans, a whole lot of us... well, we didn't. We thought that the way things were for us was normal.
And then, one day, maybe all of a sudden, maybe after a long time exploring ourselves, we said the magic words: "Oh, s#!t, I think I'm not cis."
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we've got a guide for what to do after the bottom drops out of your world, and you got your gender wrong.
When a trans person comes out, one of the most common, and challenging, parts of doing so is responding to family members who say they need to grieve us. A lot of pain, on every side, tends to swirl around the members of a relationship when that happens.
But it's not necessarily--even commonly--a bad thing.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're talking about Letting Them Let Go--when family members grieve us in transition.
This is your regular reminder that
NONBINARY PEOPLE/CREATURES EXIST.
See this flag? ---> :nonbinary:
Yep, it's for nonbinary people/creatures. It has a lot of meaning for us. But you know what else is ours?
On THIS flag ---> 🏳️⚧️
nonbinary people/creatures are represented by the white stripe. That one is ours, too. We can fit under the trans umbrella. We don't have to fit a binary.
We are here, we are valid. Use our flags and represent us in your stories.
If you're curious about us, ask us! We are mysterious entities, but we don't have to be!!
Non-binary people have always been around, this is not 'new'. From Joan of Arc, two-spirit people and more, the binary has never been the only solution.
In this blog, we dive into the history of non-binary, two-spirit, and other terms you may not have come across yet. Check it out and give yourself an education 💛💜🤍🖤
How many times have you looked at this trans person or that trans person and found yourself just in awe of them, feeling hopeless to ever measure up to their transness? I know I have.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, Red Seems Sus, which means we're investigating imposters... or rather, why trans folks often feel like we're not trans enough, or not really trans by comparison to others. I promise: you won't be thrown out an airlock! 🤭
Remember when that gender critical said trans people only started existing a few years ago?
Remember when the TERF said gender neutral pronouns are new?
Remember when "real" gays said they were against new inventions like queer and trans?
I present you a London Gay Liberation Front poster from 1971, over 50 years ago. Don't believe the lies of modern hatemongers. Because the only time they're not lying is when they're not speaking.(Credit to Mallory Moore for spotting this.)
The first part of healing from trauma is going back over the causes of trauma, so we can understand it and reprocess it in a safe environment. It's hard. Its incredibly painful. And we often learn things about ourselves that are hard to live with for a while.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're going to talk about Growing Up Broken--how just existing as a trans kid is inherently, and terribly, traumatic.
Patient self-advocacy changes depending on where you are, as a trans patient--and the therapist's office is one of the most crucial places there is for you to get great care.
Learning How To Get What You Need From Your Therapist can be a daunting task, because we generally face this when we're at our least confident, but it's also the most important step you can take in meeting your transition goals--this week on #StainedGlassWoman!
I've switched instances again, to be amongst the cuties at cutie.city :bugcat_love:, so here's my new #introduction! Looking forward to meeting everyone :cozy:.
I'm Zoey, a 30 something she/they #transfem#enby who's learning to love herself more each day. :blobhaj_melt:. I'm a software engineer working for one of those megacorps you've all heard of, but at least it's #OpenSource :bear_shrug:.
One of the biggest challenges in transition for many trans people is getting their doctors to give them the care and medicines we need.
Patient Self-Advocacy is one of the best ways to bridge that gap, but you probably don't know How To Get What You Need From Your Doctor. Come by and have a read to see what good self-advocacy looks like, as #StainedGlassWoman returns from holiday break!
Since coming to terms with your gender, how often have you wished you were just a regular cis person of your gender? (E.g. trans fems wishing they were "just another cis girl")
And if you could reply, I'd love to hear why you have those feelings or thoughts. 💜
AHHH So excited to introduce my first ever shirt designs featuring quotes from my poetic texts.
I used Printify as print-on-demand climate friendly ethical provider for my designs and they are now available for purchase 🥺 This line is from my text "Emotional Responsibility", a text about transphobia and my non-binary identity.
Shirts here: https://skalys-merch.printify.me/products
I met a gentleman a bit ago, and my time talking to him about transmasculine erasure and living in deep stealth. It touched me deeply, and I think you ought to hear about his journey.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're going to take a long, hard look at The Glass Closet, where so many of us wind up after transition, how high the price of living in stealth can be, and where the line between authenticity and privacy lies.