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Cefr

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An allusion to my favorite RHCP song.
And pronounced the same way.
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Alice, (edited ) to random
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Maybe conservatives would be okay with abortion if they knew that all fetuses start out female.

Cefr,
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@Alice It's a double own because that means every male in existence is actually trans.

RickiTarr, to random
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Alright, lots of heavy discussions today, so let's talk about something silly!

What is a movie that always makes you laugh?

Personal pick:

Anything Mel Brooks, but Robin Hood: Men in Tights, it's just funny every time I watch it.

Cefr,
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@RickiTarr My comfort movie is split evenly between Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure and Wayne's World. It's my entire childhood in five-ish hours.

Cefr, to random
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Pulled out my Car Thing from my vehicle today to learn... There is literally no "replacement". Spotify is full of shit.

Google killed Android Auto in 2021 (which is why I agreed to it) in favor of Google Assistant's own voice centered car mode, now that is gone too.

Spotify also had a driving mode while Car Thing existed that was also scrapped before this decision was made. I know Car Thing was a failed release and they shouldn't support it indefinitely, but less than 2 years from discontinuation is needling "as soon as possible." 4 years, I'd have no comment. (Likely guess: API change that not only kills off Car Thing, but severs a lot of Spotify-compatible helper apps. Stay tuned.)

So the official guidance from Google is: if you have a new vehicle in your future look for Android Auto Built In (except GM in the US who nixed it for their own deal). Otherwise, older cars and the few models left with no "infotainment" screen, you are too poor to use a phone on the road. Be distracted and enjoy being a danger to others.

Jyoti, to random
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Cefr,
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@Jyoti You'll never see them hop from grace. 😁

StillIRise1963, to random
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If we all vote, we can feel this way many more times.

Cefr,
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@StillIRise1963 If specifically as many of the white folks as possible vote against Trump, even more so.

It’s not anyone else’s fault but White People that Trump got elected. Liza has the facts:
https://mastodon.social/@blogdiva/112533909692792682

LRRRonEarth, to random
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GUILTY!

Cefr,
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@WuMargaret @Jorsh @LRRRonEarth I'm torn on that.

I want our LRRR to be well fed and Donnie's gotta be as plump as he'll get before prison food (if not this case, hopefully soon.) But if he eats him, TFG won't learn nothing.

RickiTarr, to random
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Have I been doing ibuprofen wrong?

Cefr,
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@RickiTarr Jean Shepard voice over from A Christmas Story: "LSD? Psilocybin? Peyote? Amateurs. Everyone knows the real score in middle school is Tylenol, and Scut Farkas had a plan to get it before the big dance!"

RickiTarr, to random
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Could a Betazoid and a Vulcan have a kid together or would the kid just immediately feel schizophrenic all the time?!

Cefr,
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@RickiTarr That's how Star Trek V happened, I wager.

RickiTarr, to random
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How much alone time vs socializing do you need?

For me there are a few people who are usually equalizing, and I can just be around them, so I won't count that. But generally, I find about 3 times a week, I'm game for socializing. A day in between to rest is usually nice, but the larger the gathering or if we go somewhere particularly noisy or I'm meeting new people that involves more effort, and my social battery empties sooner. I'm very curious where everyone else falls on this!

Cefr,
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@RickiTarr At a time it was 1:1. Every day I was social, a day to myself was enough to bounce back. Work definitely was a negative impact (5:2 sucks.)

Now, I think I'm at a 1:5 ratio thanks to societal burnout and political pressure coming from all sides. I spend 5 days off, only one workday is tolerable. Day #2 and I want another five days off. Vacations do not help.

Adam_Cadmon1, to random
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Is Chicago Yacht Rock?

Cefr,
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@healyn @Adam_Cadmon1 The website is offline but there used to be a Yachtski Scale published by the Beyond Yacht Rock podcast. The scale rates songs, not bands, as even McDonald and Loggins dipped into and out of the "sound."
https://web.archive.org/web/20230105092104/https://www.yachtornyacht.com/

Anything above 60% is definite Yacht Rock, 59-35ish% is "Marina Rock", and South of 30% is "Easy Listening" or "Soft Rock."

Saturday in The Park weighs at 22%, with 35% going to Hard to Say I'm Sorry.

These are all based on reviews in the podcast, and definitely subjective. (In other words, feel free to disagree.)

Cefr,
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@healyn @Adam_Cadmon1 Yeah, Toto fucks everyone up. (They discussed this as part of the Lukatherscore, or the Steve Lukather influence of various 80's bands as a session guitarist who blurred all of those lines.)

RickiTarr, to random
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Y'all, I like all the Treks, I can't deal with your fighting, please think of the children.

Cefr,
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@RickiTarr What makes me sad: Paramount+ ending series with less promised new works in the pipeline. At their peak, five series at a time per year. Now, I'm not sure that will ever happen again. (They clearly aren't interested in elevating one series to a full season commitment of 23 episodes. That would at least be a sign of good faith if they can't run more than a couple of shows.)

What doesn't make me sad: Faith of The Heart. I still love Enterprise, even if the presence of theme song lyrics made it weird.

Cefr,
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@notroot @RickiTarr Cause there's supposed to be an onomatopoeia-filled answer when asked "what's the words to your favorite Star Trek Theme?"

(Currently Strange New Worlds) "BWAAAAAAH! Ba-ba-ba-ba-BWAAAAAH, Ba-ba-ba-ba-BWAAAAAH, Ba-ba-ba-ba-BWAAAAAH, Ba-Ba-Ba-BAAAAAAH!"
(Whistles the Star Trek TOS notes at the end.)

Cefr,
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@RickiTarr @notroot :ablobcat_dancing:

He is supposed to be dancing, and he does not dance. Dance, Blob Cat! Dance, damn you!

rootcompute, to random
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Adulthood is packing a bag with multiple electronic devices for a day trip and never touching any of them

Cefr,
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@rootcompute Can confirm.

Esp. the one time in a year I think it is needed and I am super eager to use it, when everyone else is like, "dude, it can wait for later, it's no big dea-- okay, fine." as I do it anyway.

StillIRise1963, to random
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Each non nazi white person needs to convert 5 white nazis.

Cefr,
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@StillIRise1963 Gotta say this: if someone else got them before you did, they don't count.

Otherwise every white person will claim "job's done" when exactly 5 former Trump supporters are bugged million of times to stop being racist.

theropologist, to random
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I know everyone hates AI and I get it, I really do. I'm not trying to diminish people's concerns. All I'm saying is I tried a month of Midjorney to see what all the fuss was about and I blew through my credits in two days generating pictures of people covered in spaghetti.

So perhaps this is a cautionary tale after all.

Cefr,
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@RickiTarr @theropologist Beige.party: Flying Spaghetti Monster Services and Mass Congregation at Sunrise every Sunday.

RickiTarr, to random
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It's so weird that we are all supposed to be ashamed for burping and farting. I deeply apologize to everyone for keeping my body from literally exploding, so uncouth.

Cefr,
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@RickiTarr I'll apologize for gas, that stinks.

Burps, belching and other mild forms of gastric distention, if someone gets miffed about that past a quick "excuse me", they are someone I don't want to break bread with ever again.

RickiTarr, to random
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Saw this in the bathroom of the Queer Friendly Coffee House:

Cefr,
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@RickiTarr @jwcph @done My former best friend and TERF adjacent (calling him feminist is a stretch, but definitely Trans Exclusionary) asshat I attended HS with would be in that camp. He would only see women as mating partners. (Same mindset of anyone who says "all women love me" or "I know how to talk to any black person"... Seeing people as monolithic, pigeonholed "others".)

The same dude bro mindset who reduce women who cannot reproduce (various cancers have this as an outcome) as "not wife material".

He passed away, so I can call him an asshole all I want now to everyone I know. While he was alive, I was pushed to backpedal by friends and relatives, "he's trying", "he's not as smart as you, give him some credit".

No, he was a dick. I was his friend because there was literally no one else in my neighborhood my age to be around. (And it was the 90s. I was as informed on transmisia as any kid who watched Sifl and Olly.)

nyquildotorg, to random
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I don't know who needs to hear this, but DuckDuckGo makes their money by selling the eyeballs of its users to the highest bidder. What you search for affects the ads you see, because they sell "show this ad to anyone searching for that."

It's still surveillance capital when your actions dictate how much money the search engine makes, even when the advertisers don't know who you are.

Cefr,
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@nyquildotorg IIRC DuckDuckGo is Bing, so there is no safe quarter from AI replacing search in any manner.

RickiTarr, to random
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Y'all I just made myself feel so old, hubs looked up top 100 music from 2001, 2011, 2021, and today and the amount of music I could recognize decreased by significantly. I recognized probably 70% of 2001 and decreasing as I went on. BUT I blame the internet, I can listen to exactly the kind of music I want with no dependence on the radio, but also I'm old!

Cefr,
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@RickiTarr As a Gen Alpha kid put it to me, "Rock is out of the mainstream. When I hear it, it's what people your age listen to on ads I know aren't meant for people my age. Classic Rock means nothing to us because that describes all rock music as far as we care."

I could shake my fist at it, or I can try to understand it. Rock isn't the language of rebellion to the young anymore. Why use your parents favorite genre to try to disassociate yourself from prior generations? There is a bit of sense in that.

"So what do you listen to that upsets your parents?"

"I'm not a big music fan."

If that was my kid, that would do it.

RickiTarr, (edited ) to random
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What advice would you give to someone just starting out in a relationship?

Mine might sound kind of dark in relation to the question, but here goes:

People change, and they should, it's part of being a person. Some people are lucky, and they change in the same direction, but some don't, and that's okay too. There's no shame in leaving a relationship or changing the nature of a relationship that no longer serves you. We are all taught that every relationship, whether romantic or friendship, is supposed to last forever, but nothing is forever, and forcing something that no longer works, just ends in anger and bitterness. Knowing when to let go is as important as knowing when to hold on through a rough patch, and how to know either of those things is the most cliché advice of all, COMMUNICATE.

Cefr,
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@krafty @RickiTarr Trust is probably the 2nd largest killer of relationships just behind money. And infidelity isn't even the main thought here. (That one is easier to say than do: keep your promises. If you can't, end it quick before your partner ends it anyway.)

Everyone deserves to be safe and protected, of course. What isn't discussed often is that people who have a very rigid standard of how they want to be treated beyond self respect and Mazlow's Hierarchy who don't put that up front typically, and if you aren't aware of that due to infatuation, once that glass breaks, it can turn love into resentment and loathing overnight.

And when it's made known, trust issues that appear from nowhere can feel like a lie but if they're not aware of what they're imposing on their partner when they do it... I mean how well does anyone know their self?

It's a trap of sorts; spending more time with someone helps reveal trust issues. And while you are blind to their real desires, it's all too easy to move too fast. (This goes for men as well as women.)

So the best advice is also the lamest because it doesn't help very much: be careful.

Cefr,
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@3dogcouch @RickiTarr Excellent points.

People can change. They change every day in ways you can never expect. But they'll never change how you want them to.

Teasing is mutual. One might be up for it when the other isn't and it ends quick once that is made clear. Bullying is not; it ignores a partner's needs and doesn't stop.

Cefr,
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@econads @3dogcouch @RickiTarr In my experience, coincidental change confuses the perception. You want someone to appreciate something you do, they do, and it seems voluntary when it's mutual interests in alignment.

But that is a very pessimistic view of human relationships and analyzing my own failed engagement to a large degree. You might be right about him for all I know.

Alice, to random
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I bet Charmin only uses those weird bears because they couldn't get the rights to Beavis.

Cefr,
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@Alice He'd be the first paradoxical spokesperson. He needs TP for a bunghole, yet has no bunghole.

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