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felyashono

@felyashono@disabled.social

He/Him/His.
Autistic gamer, tech/SciFi/Fantasy geek, Apple fanboy.

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LehtoriTuomo, to actuallyautistic
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Mentioned to a coworker that I'm getting some books, for example on autism, and as they showed interest in the topic, proceeded to lightly info dump. Did give some space so that it was a true conversation. However, it reminded me of a thing I've been pondering.

As I present male, I've always been overly cautious of not mansplaining -- or at least ever since I learned about the term. Now that I know I'm autistic, I understand it's entangled with having learned that NTs don't like infodumping.

Whatever the cause, I have a tendency to stay silent even if I know about the topic at hand but aren't 100% certain that it's appropriate to talk about it. Sometimes it makes me sad.

@actuallyautistic

felyashono,
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@LehtoriTuomo @actuallyautistic

I saw a post somewhere not long ago that suggested a key component of mansplaining was not being sensitive to the fact that the recipient already knows about the topic.

I too often remain silent though I'm knowledgeable and have something to contribute. I think it comes from all the failed social interactions in my past, including unwanted infodumps.

#ActuallyAutistic

RickiTarr, to random
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People with Anxiety: No worries.

Also People with Anxiety: Imagining every scenario where they need to worry.

felyashono,
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@RickiTarr

Also people with anxiety: worrying about whether they forgot to worry about some scenario.

felyashono, to random
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I've had an epiphany. Somebody I don't know showed up in a hashtag I follow, blaspheming one of my favorite fandoms. As I drafted replies in my head, and explored their profile, I realized:

  1. They are a profoundly angry and hateful person.

  2. Their anger is not directed at their target. I suspect its directed at themselves.

  3. I am not their therapist. It's not my responsibility to help them understand their issues.

So I just blocked them.

#DontFeedTheTrolls #ActuallyAutistic

drahardja, to apple
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The new iPads are once again mind-blowingly amazing hardware showcases, hamstrung by software and an extractive App Store gatekeeper that limits what users can effectively do.

There is now such a large overlap of prices between iPad and MacBooks that we’ll probably never see a touchscreen Mac, because it would be a superior choice over iPad in most cases.

What I want, really, is macOS running on desktop, laptop, and tablet form factors, with a relatively open software environment not solely owned by the App Store.

I think Microsoft actually got it right with Windows 11 (minus the #enshittification ads). If only they pushed more strongly on the Surface lineup…

#apple #macOS #iPad #windows #Microsoft

felyashono,
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@mariani1 @drahardja

That's a really interesting idea. A big selling point of SwiftUI has always been that the rendering of the view code adapts to the platform. If it could do so as the platform changes within the same hardware config…

If you're suggesting that when "docked" to a Magic Keyboard, the UI looks like macOS, and when undocked, it looks like iPadOS, I worry about the cognitive dissonance of everything changing appearance.

A more unified look/feel would require a lot more work.

felyashono,
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@mariani1 @drahardja

I'm inclined to agree, and I think that sense is foundational to Apple's design choices. What makes a touch-screen interface usable is substantially different from what makes a mouse-driven interface usable.

I once had a reason to use iTunes for Windows on a Surface. It was utterly unusable. The buttons were the right size for a mouse cursor, not my finger.

But that was many years ago, and I assume Windows 11 has fully rearchitected it?

felyashono,
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@drahardja @mariani1

Where is it? It's in iOS and iPadOS right now. Apple's UI guidelines allow large enough icons and paddings that every button is individually targetable with relatively large finger-pads. Not all interaction models translate directly, but as you say, the OS doesn't have to solve all problems.

Touch-and-hold is a better gesture for secondary (contextual menu) click. I don't think two-finger tap would work well on a touchscreen, like it does as a click gesture on macOS.

felyashono,
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@drahardja @mariani1

But the feature I hear about most often requested is a general window manager for iPadOS. I definitely do not want four windows tiled in quadrants on my 11" iPad Pro. No window would have enough space to be usable. These are tradeoffs iPadOS must make for its form factor. I fear everybody claiming otherwise will be frustrated if Apple ever implements it.

felyashono,
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@drahardja @mariani1

Yeah, and this is what it looks like on an 11" (iPad) Display. For scale reference, my finger is maybe 0.25 inches from the screen in that shot.

KrissyKat, (edited ) to random
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How long before Trump violates Judge Merchan's contempt order of May 6 and ends up in jail for disrespecting the judicial system?

felyashono,
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@KrissyKat
If it were going to happen, it would have already

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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I originally thought the hashtag ActuallyAutistic was specifically that in part because many of us (as I do) overuse the word "actually".—I learned a long time ago its true origin and meaning though.

I was curious (and still am) what other words we tend to overuse. For me I've come up with these so far:

• actually
• indeed
• fascinating
• interesting

Are there any other common ones?
@actuallyautistic
#ActuallyAutistic

felyashono,
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@JeremyMallin @actuallyautistic
Awesome
Absolutely
Yes! [I use it to indicate that I understand somebody’s question or concern, even when the concern is negative]

rbreich, to random
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Casual reminder to Ignore the anti-union propaganda from corporate America.

If unions were actually bad for workers, corporations wouldn't need to spend millions of dollars on union-busting.

felyashono,
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@rbreich What are the best ways to tell the good unions from the bad ones?

At my last workplace, a union was trying to get us to call for a vote. A rep approached my wife at our personal residence. I don’t know how they even figured out where I live, but it was creepy!

GottaLaff, to random
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👀Via Emptywheel:

I'm with 'paw.

Not a single participant in a Trump-related case (or Hunter Biden's) has avoided life-altering threats. You can't do this to people serving their civic duty.

nycsouthpaw:

Another Lawfare editor has posted a thread—based on pool reports—compiling copious personal identifying information for all six seated jurors. It’s so dangerous, at least as I perceive the character of the movement, I don’t even want to link it. WTF are we doing?

felyashono,
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@GottaLaff Do you have a source for this? I did a quick google search, but all I got was references to the Georgia case last fall…

mina, to random
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What's going on?

Since yesterday, I'm suddenly getting ugly messages from Nazis, transphobes, white supremacists etc.

Of course, I block and report them all, but I wonder: Is it just me, or is the Fedi facing an invasion?

felyashono,
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@mina Blocking and reporting works, especially if your instance admins are keeping an eye on the reports. If you notice they are all coming from a common instance, you could partner with your admins to defederate that instance.

menelion, (edited ) to iOS
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Hi dear #iOS users! I have a Health widget on my home screen. Is there a way to make it show steps instead of calories, percentage and what not, or it will be reason number 7001 why I don't like Apple's policies? And if it's the later, please suggest a #VoiceOver accessible app for that? Thanks!

felyashono,
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@menelion No, the fitness app widget will not show step count. But there’s a variety of free apps that will, including Widgetsmith https://apps.apple.com/us/app/widgetsmith/id1523682319

felyashono, to random
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Why do the moon and the sun appear the exact same size during an ? They're radically different sizes and distances. Is the similarity in apparent sizes pure coincidence (ie the size : distance ratio just happens to be the same), or is there a more profound mathematical explanation?

rolle, to apple
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A question for Apple Watch users: Series 9 or Ultra? Is Ultra too big? Which one to buy? I currently have a Fitbit Sense which is 40.48mm (1.58in) and moving on to the Apple world.

Please note: I am not looking for any price or ecosystem discussion here, I just want to hear more about the Apple Watch user experience. Thanks in advance.

#Apple #AppleWatch #SmartWatch #SmartWatches

felyashono,
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@rolle I wear the 41mm Apple Watch. The 45mm is big on me, but tolerable. At 49mm, the Ultra is just too big. The first time I tried one on, I thought “Wow, it’s lighter than I expected. But still way too big.”

If you can, it’s worth going in to an Apple Store. You can try on all three sizes and see the colors and band options in person.

Jaden3, to sciencefiction
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I am 💯 obsessed with Sci fi ain gon lie. The biggest wish I would have in the whole world is if aliens from other planets would connect with us . Surely this is a possibility at some time in the future?
Just want to connect with other Sci fi folks to discuss? Tho hope not just fiction 😬
#sciencefiction

felyashono,
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@Jaden3 “If it’s just us, seems like an awful waste of space.”

from Contact (1997)

felyashono, to random
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@ivory Do you currently have any plans for a visionOS native version? The iPad app running in compatibility mode works well, but…

RL_Dane, to iPhone
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Imagine an alternate reality where Steve Jobs never budged on allowing apps on the iPhone, but allowed people to jailbreak their phones as long as they took responsibility for it (like how some Chromebooks have a dev mode).

You'd have tons of fun little apps, and almost no of the app store. You'd also have a lot of great PWAs for those who never wanted to jailbreak their phones.

I don't miss the iPhone, but I absolutely miss the golden era (2008-2013ish) of the .

felyashono,
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@ianthetechie @1dalm @RL_Dane the overall stability of the operating system would also be worse. Do you remember when people were jailbreaking iPhones? They were notoriously unstable.

hosford42, to actuallyautistic
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Requirements to put in a job description to discourage or filter out autistic people:

  • Comfortable with ambiguity
  • Strong people skills
  • Good culture fit
  • Multitasking
  • A fast-paced dynamic environment
  • Bachelor's degree or better

I see these things and think you don't want my >30 years of programming and machine learning experience, or my problem-solving skills and comprehensive knowledge that had people mistaking me for one of the team's PhDs, or my solutions that have proven patent-worthy. Your loss.


@actuallyautistic
@neurodivergence

felyashono,
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@hosford42 @polotek @actuallyautistic @neurodivergence

I completely agree. In my experience, ambiguity comes predominantly from poor communication. It starts at the top, with high-level managers not communicating clearly with middle managers. Middle managers don’t absorb the ambiguity and clarify it with communication. They pass it down to the workers.

“Comfortable with ambiguity” is code for “we don’t communicate effectively.” Yeah, it’s a red flag for us folks.

nocontextb5, to Babylon5
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felyashono,
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@nocontextb5 [deliberate mash up] Nice outfit, Ivanova.

Mrfunkedude, to Starwars
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Nothing ruins a franchise faster then it's fans.

felyashono,
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@Mrfunkedude I disagree. I think the franchise is in its heyday. I also point to and as examples of really strong positive Fandoms that supported the franchises rather than hurting them

nocontextb5, to Babylon5
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felyashono,
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@nocontextb5 you know, I’ve always been so focused on the (really cool) piloting technique I had completely missed the potential double entendre until now

nocontextb5, to Babylon5
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felyashono,
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@nocontextb5 Is this from the Org Chart scene?

My brain cued up “I’ve used the Ottoman Empire as a model”.

autism101, to actuallyautistic
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I tend to think of the worst outcomes for upcoming events and may ruminate on them. The old adage, “prepare for the worst, hope for the best” describes how my brain operates most of the time.

@actuallyautistic

felyashono,
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@autism101 @actuallyautistic I do the same thing. When explaining it to allistics, I describe myself as having a morbid imagination.

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