I have been joking to a couple of friends today who were also redditors that I've been feeling withdrawals from reddit throughout the day. Like I knew I was addicted, I just never thought I was going to have to face the consequences of withdrawals!...
Really, really, really still trying to find My People here on Mastodon. Am I on the wrong server or something? I'm a self-employed #artist / #maker / #writer ... I make #ceramics ( #pottery )... dye #yarn ... #knit ... read #sciencefiction ... have two #dogs and eleven #cats ... am a recent #widow who loves to talk about what a wild ride #grief is ... and I'm a #Floridian scared shitless for my #BiPOC and #lgbtqia friends and family. Is that enough tags? Hello? Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?
Just a quick post from my phone... Yes I have gotten lazy with text to speech.
It's been 2 years today since I lost my best friend and the sweetest woman I knew.
2 years later the #grief is, ❤️🩹 well, much more manageable. I'm in a much better headspace.
I will probably make a longer post later today. When I break open the laptop. But suffice to say I have early lunch plans with my mother-in-law and stepdaughter.
A lot of kudos to my friends here on Mastodon. For letting me be myself.
I will be in #NYC at the #Alzheimer's Association to discuss "The Alzheimer's Journey: #Grief, #Guilt, #Memory, Love." It is a hybrid event (on line and in-person) that will take place on August 20th from 1 to 2 pm.
December 12th is always an emotional day for me. It's my late wife Barbara's birthday, and the #grief wells up and spills out.
Today was absolutely just such a day. And to top it off, my roommate went off on a rant about how my depth of feeling on that topic is wrong and unhealthy. Not her words. I cleaned it up.
I had a huge meltdown as a result. Now I'm exhausted, and in pain. I'm turning in for tonight. I hope.
When a trans person comes out, one of the most common, and challenging, parts of doing so is responding to family members who say they need to grieve us. A lot of pain, on every side, tends to swirl around the members of a relationship when that happens.
But it's not necessarily--even commonly--a bad thing.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're talking about Letting Them Let Go--when family members grieve us in transition.
A while back, I decided that Walt Dress Wednesday was a thing; I was having a severe morale crisis at the time, and thought that wearing my vintage-inspired Disney dresses might help.
Today, I'm wearing a simple popover dress with Cinderella's mice and the things they used to make her pink dress.
Why does this matter? Well, it was my dad's favorite part of the movie. We lost him four years ago, to health complications caused by his exposure to Agent Orange during the Vietnam war ... where he had also been a POW. Our relationship was sometimes complicated, to say the least, but I've missed him unbelievably since he passed.
#Grief has its own timetable, for sure. Most of the time I do all right, but sometimes it just hits me. I am wearing the dress today because I've been thinking about Daddy a lot.
Any ideas? I’m looking for articles, maybe even research, on the impact on grief when family members or friends die overseas & you can’t really help from Australia (or wherever you live). For instance, war zones, natural disasters, human-made disasters & the like. I can’t find anything. 🤞#grief#bereavement#mourning
#Grief is hard for the children.
Jasper misses his sister. He thinks she's hiding, and he's looked everywhere.
She got soft food, and saved him a bite each day. He really didn't eat it when I give it to him.
At this month’s partner/spousal bereavement support group, the topic came up of all of the moments of discovery or delight that are made more profound or joyful by having someone to turn to and share them with. This include big moments (like experiencing the recent eclipse), little moments (like learning a piece of trivia), commonplace events that are suddenly precious (like spending time with one’s children or grandchildren), and striking events whose meaning or appropriate response is hard to grasp (like finding an injured bird).
The absence of a kindred spirit who is committed to deeply knowing us forces us to find a new way of knowing ourselves and of making daily life still feel real, surprising, or enjoyable. It’s hard to stay buoyant and avoid taking ourselves too seriously without someone around interrupting our own thoughts with their silly and surprising observations.
I’ve been saying “there’s no wrong was to grieve,” but I may have found it.
I walked past a display of mugs in the drugstore today and one of them said “the best dads get promoted to Grandpa”. I was instantly angry that this mug would imply my father-in-law wasn’t a best dad. I wanted nothing more than to smash that mug.
My partner and their mum was able to see this choir in Vancouver. It's not that we honor or dismiss workers because they fit a stereotype. It's because, you know, they die in unsafe working conditions just to keep peoples' lights on. Survivors created Men of the Deeps choir to face their own grief and in memorial of miners lost. #Labor#Mining#Tragedies#UnsafeWorkingConditions#ChoralMusic#Grief https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6IngBIDwrf8
I helped co-facilitate a grief group yesterday for folks whose spouses/partners have died within the last year. It was a reminder for me of how a loss like that can redefine a person such that the only shorthand they have is with others who are going through it.
For those of you for whom today’s date is a reminder of a heart-shaped hole in your life—whether it is for a specific person or for a deep longing to be seen, loved, and nurtured—I’m thinking of you.
#caturday my sweet boy is gone. He died last Tuesday. We thought he was doing good on the new round of chemo treating the lymphoma in the lining of his intestines. And suddenly he wasn’t good at all. I am devastated. Those eyes. So deep so compelling you could just sink into them. Love him so much. I resist losing him! No no no ! #grief
Punko’s #Haikoot Thread.
Experiment: Going to post and collect my #Haikoots here, in a thread that I will build upon by responding to this initial post.
I will be reaching back into my collection and reposting #Haiku I am fond of that were flushed with the #TooterRooter as well as new material.
We lost our GSD, Kaiser, to cancer on 11/30/2023. He was 13 years old. Our last large dog. It feels weird, not having a big fur baby around, but we're getting older & I'm unable to lift or hold onto a large breed anymore. A lifetime of Golden Retrievers and German Shepherds done.
So, if you see an older woman who coos and looks longingly at the big dog you're walking...that might be me. Or someone else like me. We'll be thinking "lucky you." ❤️
Poster suggest that some folk flourished during 2020—incl. someone close to them—while many others were traumatized. Implied is that those who want to still talk about covid don't recognize just how triggering events surrounding its emergence were.
As 2019 came to an end, there were two types of people: those accustomed to their life being shattered, and those for whom that would be a new experience. Pieces are still being picked up.
I feel like I'm always apologizing here for not responding to @'s in a timely fashion.
To all of you who have engaged with me lately and then gotten no response, thank you and I'm sorry. Since Grandma was sick and then passed, my bandwidth has been all over the place as far as having enough mental/emotional energy to actually respond to responses.
But I hear y'all, and I appreciate you, and I'll answer. I'm just extra slow right now. ♥️
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TED NUGENT Struggles To Process The Grief Of Losing His Beloved Dog - "I Just Can't Get Away From The Heartbreak"; Video
OC Any other former redditors feeling grief?
I have been joking to a couple of friends today who were also redditors that I've been feeling withdrawals from reddit throughout the day. Like I knew I was addicted, I just never thought I was going to have to face the consequences of withdrawals!...