I sometimes still struggle with communicating with other autistics because (some) #autism folks can mask and "sound neurotypical", and they may also be hearing you speak and thinking you're "speaking neurotypical". It's basically a whole prisoners dilemma.
If they are NT, they may be lying to appear ND to get an advantage of some form
If they are ND, they may be translating their thoughts into NT so they don't get misunderstood by NT people, or they may be speaking ND, and I don't need to translate back
So based on what they say, do I assume:
They are NT speaking "honestly" as NT, thus if I apply a normal NT --> ND translation, we will understand one another
They are NT or ND and lying, thus no matter which translations I attempt to use, I can't trust any of it
They are ND and translating their thoughts into NT, so I still need to apply an NT --> ND translation in order to understand one another, but I also have to be aware that they may have made errors in their original ND --> NT translation too
They are ND and speaking their thoughts in ND, so I don't need to translate, I can simply accept their statement as ND speak
While I am a leftist who supports UBI, abolishing capitalism, etc. I have some decidedly conservative opinions on certain subjects, e.g., you should not wear pajama bottoms outside the house unless there is an emergency.
But the conservative opinion I want to talk about is taking responsibility for how other treat you when you have #adhd or are #actuallyautistic because a lot of people seem to throw themselves a pity party about it.
Yes, using the term “pity party” is harsh, but that seems to be the attitude some people have. They can’t get their relatives, friends, etc. to accommodate them or understand them and they lament about it and talk about how unjust/burdensome/whatever it is, etc.
Yes, we are well aware. But at a certain point when things are unjust you have to learn how to effectively advocate for yourself as a #neurodiverse person because if you don't, nobody else will.
You’re not alone in this either. It’s easier than ever to find fellow #neurodiverse people with #adhd or #autism who can share strategies for everything from navigating the medical system to organizational strategies to just dealing with shit in everyday life.
I’m going to share some advice about “dealing with shit in everyday life,” specifically other people.
#ADHD is such an odd type of #disability. It's simultaneously "invisible" and utterly obvious once you know how to spot it.
It's also maligned and all-too-frequently mis-/ under-/ poorly diagnosed, particularly for folks who don't happen to present as male, middle class, and white.
Just want to say how much I appreciate all of you wonderful #neurospicy / #neurodiverse folks here on the Fediverse! We're slowly making the world better by discussing our challenges and approaches—and continuing to advocate for increased #accessibility for everyone.
Does anyone with #ADHD, #Dyslexia or #Dyscalculia have advice on how to learn a second language? I seem to have issues with auditory understanding. For example, in Duolingo I'm great at learning the language, but as soon as you remove the app, I can't understand anything because I don't see the text. Is this normal? #neurodiverse#neurodivergent
Disabled people are treated like our bodies, our stories, are public property - especially so for those of us who are Aboriginal, who are Black, or People of Colour, who are trans or queer, or read as women.
Consider that if someone with a disability is posting their mutual aid links, either give/share/support or just move on.
Don't message us asking why we're disabled or why we're not on disability support pensions - that's nunya. NUNYA.
@Korbin_Arts, I’m so proud of you for sharing your story. It’s also heartwarming to see organizations like Spectrum Theatre Ensemble are there to give people a voice and an opportunity for expression.
Doctor appt today, and he happily wrote up all the pain relief I needed prescribed for my shoulder.
I thought it might be difficult to get him to prescribe endone, panadeine forte, mobic, panadol osteo, and palexia.. but we went over how I was taking them all and he agreed that I was fine with how I was approaching it - and that taking such a variety of things meant actually taking less opioid based meds because I was able to keep on top of the pain with things like panadol osteo.
We also did my mental health plan and I hit a 40 on the K10.. which is Very Fucking High. We talked about that, and about how therapy is helping and that a big part of the 40 score is probably actually pain related as well.
He agreed that I showed great insight into my illness and that I was comfortable with being vulnerable enough to ask for help, so I get to skip hospitalisation (fucking yay!) because I have a good support system and I know how to access acute assistance if needed.
But still, 40 was even higher than I was expecting tbh. I'm usually around a 25-27.
The fantastic @Impossible_PhD has been writing a powerful series about trans trauma over the last few weeks. It's well worth a read and subscribe if you are trans or you've ever wanted to understand more about what it is that trans people deal with.
I'll even broaden it out to - so many of the #cPTSD experiences that us trans folks deal with generalize and have their echos in all #neurodiverse , #autistic, #adhd , and other marginalized peoples' childhoods. It turns out, growing up "different" really fucks you up in a whole shitload of ways.
I'm particularly interested in #choice and problem architecture and #systemic cognition: how different behavioural and cognitive designs interact with sight, and imagination to produce #judgments, #decisions, and #creative insights and impact behaviours.
I've started a new Fetlife group for disabled people. It was started after it became apparent that the other group was going to allow chasers to fetishise and objectify disabled people and that the group wasn't safe for us.
You really want to get people back to the office? Forget free cocktails. Think free daycare, six month parental leave, 25 days vacation + holidays, extensive carer benefits for those who need them, the expectation that you’ll stay home and rest rather than work if you’re sick, flexible hours, further help with the enormous cost of living in the cities you operate in.
@ben You want people back in offices? How about building and supporting #neuroinclusive spaces, and strategies and resources to support #neurodiverse employees.
Overstimulating environments like the open concept office, fluorescent lights galore, lack of dedicated quiet or sensory-friendly work areas are quite stressful and definitely do not lead to high productivity.