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lifewithtrees

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Working in #tech at the edge of the wilderness. Sharing photos of said wilderness and whatever else feels present 🥰

A gender conscientious objector. ✌️🌈 💛Any pronouns are fine. 👋 PLUR 🕺🎹🎵🎶🌳🏡 Miꞌkmaꞌki

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lifewithtrees, to ADHD
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Had to leave an webinar early.

It was on procrastination and little did I realize when it started that it was 1.5 hours long! 😬

30 minutes in and the speaker was still building up the great solution and STILL hadn’t got to the point so I left.

Sometimes these “experts” leave me feeling exploited more than helped.

cc @actuallyadhd

lifewithtrees, to nature
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“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.”

  • Lao Tzu

lifewithtrees, to actuallyadhd
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A job post that explicitly requires someone with "high executive functioning"

Is this ?

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

lifewithtrees,
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@Pawpower @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd this particular job is very similar to one im already doing . Like I'm qualified minus that one spot. I've never seen something like this before in a job ad.

lifewithtrees, to random
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Just learned what a natural witch is and guess what 😆🥰

lifewithtrees, to random
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If you were to overhear another professional stating they are “anti-woke,” what would that mean to you?

What assumptions might be made?

#AskFedi

lifewithtrees, to actuallyadhd
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“What do you want to do 5 years from now?”

🤔

😬

🤯

I am having a difficult time visioning 5 years from now, what I want to do and then how to get there.

Some of this is due to the chaos of the last few years, but I also think it could be a challenge due to

Also I am 42 so midlife stuff?

That all said, how do you vision 5 years from now?

@actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic

lifewithtrees,
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@mystickal @actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic yes. This is part of the struggle. Like 5 years ago I would not have imagined what was to come, so how can I envision 5 years from now?

lifewithtrees,
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@illuminaudhd @actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic yep same feels! It’s very overwhelming and then I feel hopeless :(

LehtoriTuomo, to actuallyautistic
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One reason why it took me so long to self-diagnose autism is that I thought I don't stim. In fact, once I learned that I do stim, my self-diagnosis process kicked in. That was the first time I said to myself that I might actually be autistic.

The reason for this misunderstanding was that I thought stimming is stereotypical, very repetitive, compulsory movement. I guess this misunderstanding is quite common.

I've since learned that stimming, short for self-stimulatory behavior, is basically stimulating one's sensory system in certain ways. It may be a way to soothe oneself, help to focus in overwhelming situations by feeding one's brain predictable sensory input, a way to express joy, or simply something that feels nice. Movements are part of it but any sense can be used.

When googling the term, there are mentions that also neurotypicals stim but that when diagnosing autism, stimming is somehow different -- only socially unacceptable stims are "real" stims. Bah.

I've started paying attention to how and when I stim, and collect a list of stims I do. I've noticed all types of stimming behavior (soothing, focusing, joy, fun). I do it more than before -- or maybe I just notice it more often. I've noticed that I love moving my body parts, especially to music. I also love different textures.

@actuallyautistic

lifewithtrees,
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@pathfinder @kalikiana @LehtoriTuomo @actuallyautistic yep this was me and beatboxing allll the time

lifewithtrees, to actuallyautistic
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The older I get, the more I find being in the city to be overwhelming. There are so many people and sounds and smells and it is all sensory overload.

Manhattan (and especially MoMA!) was interesting for the day but I’m ready to get home to the forest.

I am back in my hotel room with white noise going and ordered food I make at home for delivery to calm my nervous system.

@actuallyautistic

lifewithtrees, to random
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A freeway

lifewithtrees,
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An exit

lifewithtrees,
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A thistle reminding me of life.

#Nature #Bloomscrolling #Flowers

theaardvark, to Autism
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#Autism #ADHD #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic
How does everyone know how, when and how much they're masking?
As a late-diagnosed #AuDHD, I struggle to differentiate between "me but masking" and "me but in a diff situation".
Now that I know I'm autistic, I even miss the person I used to be in some situations before I knew.
I used to call myself a "social chameleon" - I just changed automatically to suit the circumstances.
But who actually am I and what is just a mask?
@actuallyautistic
@actuallyadhd

lifewithtrees,
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@theaardvark @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd it's like a peeling back of layers.

Tune into your body's reactions.

For me, when something feels yuck I have shoulders up and face scrunched, then I know that's a thing I don't like.

When it feels warm or tingly, those are things i do like.

Then using that info, ask yourself what you like and value and peel back the things that make you go "mmmm more please!" and away from the yuck.

Then go toward what feels warm and build up from there

lifewithtrees,
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@rebekka_m @theaardvark @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd it was like that for me too. As a kid, I would always ask my mom if I liked a certain food before I started eating it, because I could never remember what I liked. I externalized that task of executive function.

Asi grew up, to keep the effort low, I would stay with certain foods I knew I enjoyed (shoutout for Mini What's!)

It also left me out of touch with my own body's desires. I learned that I couldn't trust myself

I'm learning now.

lifewithtrees,
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@rebekka_m @theaardvark @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd yes! It's taken my years to see it myself, and now I'm learning by listening to what my body wants and regaining my own trust that I CAN take care of myself. It's been helping!

lifewithtrees, to nature
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A field coming in to spring.

#nature #lichensubscribe #Mosstodon

lifewithtrees, to LGBTQ
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“Stop crying. Men don’t cry”

“Liking country music makes you lose your gay card.”

“You don’t want people to think you are a fish wife do you?”

These are all things I have heard to my face. What they’ve shown me:

Rigid social norms make exploiting the common person simpler.

Rigid social norms simplify having the exploited enforce being exploited.

We exploit each other AND ourselves in service of these rigid social norms.

Liberation is on the other side

Let’s meet there.

#lgbtq #Queer

lifewithtrees,
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@aetataureate oh yes! Those remarks are a sign that those people are stuck in their own prisons!

lifewithtrees, to random
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And then, one suddenly finds themselves to be 42.

🥰🤔😝

lifewithtrees,
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@NatureMC @BsCreativeLife I did not get a towel, but did get a book on mushrooms!

I will try using it to dry after a shower? 🤷

lifewithtrees, to nature
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A side view of a face in chaga

MelodyWainscott, to random
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What do you call a human who is both heat tolerant and cold tolerant?

lifewithtrees,
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@MelodyWainscott me too. One of my favourites is brutiful.

Life is brutal and beautiful = brutiful.

Do you have a favourite?

lifewithtrees, to ADHD
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Learned a new word for a thing I do.

What do you think of it @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd ?

AGNOSTHESIA

n. the state of not knowing how you really feel about something, which forces you to sift through clues hidden in your own behavior, as if you were some other person — noticing a twist of acid in your voice, an obscene amount of effort you put into something trifling, or an inexplicable weight on your shoulders that makes it difficult to get out of bed.

lifewithtrees,
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@rebekka_m @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd np and same!

It's not only the not knowing HOW I feel but even how TO feel. I need learning on both fronts!

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