I find myself reminded of many years ago when I still used Facebook, of no longer mentioning my dog's bad behavior (when he was still a puppy) because EVERY time I did, I was flooded with unsolicited advice (almost always by cis men!) and this was a group of people I at least somewhat knew, not total strangers.
Like, I get the desire to connect with someone by replying to their story with one of your own. But this is more than the often-autistic thing of "I'm attempting to show you empathy by describing a similar situation I experienced." It's jumping to "THIS is how you SHOULD handle this situation," almost entirely at people who DIDN'T ASK FOR YOUR ADVICE.
Consider the massive difference:
"I'm looking for alternatives to (name of tech thing, service, whatever)" vs "I'm having issues with (tech thing)"
One is a direct solicitation of advice. The other is a gripe.
You CAN, by my own standards of internet etiquette (others may vary), reply with something like "I had that issue too, that's why I started using (alternative tech thing)." that is ENTIRELY DIFFERENT from "you SHOULD use (alternative tech thing) because (tech thing you're currently using) is trash."
I mean, the difference is obvious to me, but judging by the posts by so many others dealing with #replyGuys, it apparently isn't? And yes, I do think #whitePrivilege and #malePrivilege do play a role, because it's simply the reality that our culture places the utmost value on the words spoken by people who are white, male, or both. You don't have to choose privilege to benefit from it.
Anyway this post, itself, is a gripe/rant, and is not, in fact, a solicitation of advice for how to deal with reply guys. Feel free to reply with your own experiences with them, but for the love of Apollo, please DON'T reply with anything that can be boiled down into "you should..."
Or you're just further exemplifying the very issue I'm right now griping about 🙃
So many #replyguys in this thread lol. OP is not even explicitly saying here that he supports #Threads, he's just pointing out how the #UX of #Mastodon (and frankly the rest of the #fediverse as well) sucks when it comes to communicating clearly to users about instances suspensions. :reimu_sigh:
As the number of people who see your joke on Mastodon increases, the likelihood of someone offering advice on how to solve the “problem” described in the joke approaches infinity.
Why is life never easy? I enjoy cashews but not the chewing bit. I like having a beard but hate beard maintenance. I enjoy interacting with you lot on here but hate #ReplyGuys and preachy types. Gah! Is it bedtime yet?
I'm so glad that you, a man, has come to my posts to explain to me, a criminal justice student with 30 years experience in prison and police abolition, how the US death penalty works.
Hm, this looks like a big deal for large-follower-count users - and explains some things that I've seen.
I was aware of automatic reply filtering on the pre-musk #birdsite but was under the impression it was largely a matter of "show only other bluechecks" than some sort of fuzzier quality filter as it apparently was
This strikes me as a big deal for a fairly big cross-section of higher-follower-count users like, say, @Popehat having a meaningfully worse reply interaction experience here.
Please always respect #Indigenous territories & don't do any #TribalTourism anywhere, without consent first. The #Sentineli don't want foreigners on their island - for really good reasons.
For the last number of years I've been working really hard to take words like "stupd" and "idot" out of my vocabulary because I believe that they're oppressive language that have a history of being used as slurs against people with neurodiverse brains, people with learning disabilities, people who have brain injuries, and who weren't able to access education for a variety of reasons, (as well as others).
But reading some of you all comments really fucking tests my dedication to it.. really.
had to take an actual photo of my laptop's screen because i can't get a screenshot of it with the Mastodon deck search field tab exposed.
am kinda frustrated with the #accessibility issues i've had with the platform. no matter what i tried, i could not properly perform a search... because i couldn't register correctly what i was seeing in that exposed tab.
where it not for the #Stylebot#Firefox extension, i would have ditched Mastodon a long time ago.
🗣️ 📣 FOR THE #REPLYGUYS TELLING ME TO MOVE TO ANOTHER INSTANCE FOR THE LOVE OF DOG DO NOT MAKE ME TELL YOU TO FUCK OFF BECAUSE I WILL SO DO IT SO BACK OFF THIS IS ABOUT MORE THAN JUST MY DISABILITY IT ABOUT IS THE INABILITY OF PEOPLE LIKE TO COME IN AND CONTRIBUTE A THEME TO THE PROJECT WITHOUT FUCKING FORKING ALL THE DOGDAMN PROJECT SO BACK OFF!
Among my friends and chosen family we have developed a habit of asking someone if they are asking for advice or asking to be heard, instead of just slamming down advice every time someone says something.
You should definitely use #AltText because otherwise you'll get a load of #ReplyGuys pretending they care about such things so they have an excuse to nitpick and criticise you.
On the other hand, I find myself having to examine every post with a hermeneutic multiplexity before I post it. Spontaneity go POOOOF! So they do my nut in.
On the other, is it mean to bait them?
All you need to do is pretend to get something wrong about Linux and they'll be queuing up.
Like the old saying goes, it's like shooting fish in a barrow.