HunkThunderzone

HunkThunderzone, 4 days ago to random

Happy Pride!

(Like you didn't know about Yukon Cornelius)

RickiTarr, 5 days ago to random

99.9% of jobs do not require urgency of any kind, really they don't. We've all had a boss who acts like someone will die if we don't hit some made up deadline by people who don't even do the job. No one needs their meal 1 minute faster or the paperwork before tomorrow morning. Your time off actually doesn't need to wait. Sometimes I think about how legitimately bad most businesses are at time management and hiring, and I wonder how they manage to exist at all.

RickiTarr, 5 days ago to random

Alright, lots of heavy discussions today, so let's talk about something silly!

What is a movie that always makes you laugh?

Personal pick:

Anything Mel Brooks, but Robin Hood: Men in Tights, it's just funny every time I watch it.

HunkThunderzone, 6 days ago to random

I love that a dude was doing a "Not All Men" and then said "a whole group of women crossed the street just because I'm a dude!"

and it's like "Why are you tracking the movements of nearby women like that? Maybe that's why they crossed the street? Maybe don't do that?"

Said I "insulted" him and then he blocked me.

Mjack, 6 days ago to random

How did I not know Aretha Franklin covered The Weight?

RickiTarr, 6 days ago to random German

@stefanfendt @pattykimura @Greenseer Telling people you shouldn't be afraid, because we don't have all the data is stupid. Especially when society has literally told women, if you don't protect yourself it's your fault. Hoping some white knight will pop up, and protect us is also a really shit solution.

HunkThunderzone, 8 days ago to random

Why do people think the period is angry punctuation?
It's just ending a thought so you know where the next one begins.

HunkThunderzone, 9 days ago to random

Whenever there's a homophobe being homophobic, the immediate accusation is "he's secretly gay!"

This may or may not be true. But the fact that it is this knee jerk reaction is the problem.

Because the thing about homophobes is that they attack LGBTQs to get people off the scent of whatever they are hiding. And they are ALWAYS hiding something.

When the issue is dismissed as "closeted homosexual" we basically are saying that homophobia is an internal problem, it's gay on gay violence, and straight people don't have to even pay attention.

But it also means we can miss something far worse than hypocrisy and self-loathing.

https://www.wonkette.com/p/neo-nazi-known-to-protest-drag-story

Alice, 10 days ago (edited 10 days ago) to random

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HunkThunderzone, 10 days ago to random

"But if I don't do this awful self serving thing, someone else will"

Maybe they will. But then it won't have anything to do with you. See how that works?

Sometimes it's less about the bad thing happening, and more about your eagerness to spearhead it.

To retort that it will happen anyway, so why not me? I dunno, people want to keep liking you? We were hoping you had an ethical approach to life. Were we wrong?

HunkThunderzone, 10 days ago to random

But we can't have leather or fetish at Pride because straight people....

1. Pride is not about straight people, their expectations, nor their fears.

2. Pride is STILL a protest. Just because we have fun, doesn't make it NOT a protest. What are we protesting? Our right to exist, as ourselves without fear nor apology. Kink is part of that. As is the public display.

3. We are already a divided community on a bunch of other issues, the last thing we should be doing is turning on each other. Which is what you're doing by trying to gatekeep Pride. ALL the folks you want to exclude have been part of our community since the jump. Some of them give more of their time and labor to us than many of the people complaining.

4. We got here TOGETHER. By not apologizing for our community. And we got THIS far together, what makes you think it get easier from here? What makes you think we can just toss people off the side. Pride isn't supposed to be about who does NOT belong.

HunkThunderzone, 11 days ago to random

I wanna know,
Have you ever seen Lorraine?

RickiTarr, 13 days ago to random

How much alone time vs socializing do you need?

For me there are a few people who are usually equalizing, and I can just be around them, so I won't count that. But generally, I find about 3 times a week, I'm game for socializing. A day in between to rest is usually nice, but the larger the gathering or if we go somewhere particularly noisy or I'm meeting new people that involves more effort, and my social battery empties sooner. I'm very curious where everyone else falls on this!

HunkThunderzone, 13 days ago to random

Crazy lighting storm over the lake tonight.

No thunder.
No rain by us.

Just near constant arcs and flashes for about half an hour. All over the sky above the lake. Like paparazzi at a red carpet.
Alt text for images: views from a street that ends at the lakefront next to a park, leaving a lot of clear views of the lake and cloudy sky above it. There are the tops of cars, the side of a lamp post and some barrier rocks in the foregrounds of the lower parts of the pictures, lit with an orangey-yellow street light.
The skies are cloudy and dark in the background with flashes of white with blue and purple, sometimes with white arcs of lightning. The only parts where the clouds are truly visible are where the lightning reflects off them. In some the light so reflects off the water in the lower half of the photo. Otherwise it is dark. It almost creates a vignette effect. These are stills of videos, with some adjustments to enhance the highlights, colors , and increase contrast.

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RickiTarr, 14 days ago to random

Sometimes when you learn how something works, you think, Thanks knowledge, that really helped, everything makes more sense, and other times you look up how wrists turn, and it's like WTF?!

HunkThunderzone, 16 days ago to random

Always be skeptical of anyone who claims that XYZ is "the way of the future"

If you're young you may not know this, but that gets said A LOT. Most of the time it's BS.

Very few things live up to that promise. Which is why you're not checking Friendster on your Palm Pilot.

RickiTarr, 16 days ago to random

It cracks me up when people say that people with ADD and ADHD don't actually need their meds, they are just addicted to Adderall. Have they even met a person with ADD or ADHD?
My friends forget to take their meds all the time!

RickiTarr, 17 days ago to random

Have y'all ever had someone act like you were hurting them somehow by just liking a food?

Any time I buy or make kimchi, my Mom says it's so gross and she doesn't want any and just on and on. I never offer it to her, or make group food with it, but for some reason she seems offended by it, and I don't know why.

HunkThunderzone, 17 days ago to random

I would like to remind my fellow white folks of a simple fact:

Impartial doesn't mean ignorant.

Being ignorant of the challenges black people face does not make you an impartial judge of whether a situation is racist or not. White people are not everymen.

Black folks are not "too close" to the issue to understand it, but you are definitely too far away and too ignorant to judge it.

No matter how hard you imagine, you can't see the world through a black person's eyes, and you can't feel it through their skin. So you don't get to veto their perspective because you imagined one you like more.

HunkThunderzone, 17 days ago to random

When did it become rude to NOT let people interrupt you?

I've noticed that while people admit that interrupting people is rude, there's this perception that once someone does interrupt you, you have to let them continue. You have to stop whatever it is you're doing and give them your full attention.

Like it's rude to interrupt, but once someone says "excuse me" then you HAVE TO give them your full attention or you're being rude? WTF?

No. We always get to decide what we focus on in any given moment.
"Excuse me" is a REQUEST. It's not automatically rude to deny a request.

When someone says "excuse me" you can say "yes?" but you can also say "No" or "Not right now" or "leave me alone" and none of that is rude.

RickiTarr, 18 days ago to random

Sometimes the way people phrase things is so telling. For instance, telling women they should be "taking care of" their husband and children. Another adult doesn't need taken care of like a child, what you want is for women to be a Sex Mom.