I think with ADHD and autism, there’s a fine line between “this thing that I have is bad and makes existing hard” and “This thing I have is bad, so that means I’m bad”
When we get judged harshly by others, and simply existing is hard, it becomes easier to fall into this self-hatred.
But who you are is good, remember that. :RedHearts:
Everytime I stand in front of the door and frantically search for the keys in my bag, all that #anxiety makes me panic, pushes me to the verge of tears - even though it is not such a big deal because I’m not in a hurry and if anything, the concierge has a spare pair.
So, naturally, my #autistic brain tries to compensate for a possible #ADHD fail - and every time I walk home, I feel almost unbeatable urge to get my keys out of my bag to my hand when I am still like 200 meters from home.
I suppose, it’s the same overcompensation mechanism that makes me come to airport at least two hours before the departure and to a train station at least an hour before, buy spares of essentials each time a bottle starts feeling not full, or always have a stocked pantry(though there may be multiple of ones and none of others as I always forget to check what I have before going to the store)
Is this exaggerated(to the point of creating problems) ‘better safe than sorry’ something #AuDHD people are more prone to? Do you guys also do that? @actuallyautistic
I am noticing more and more that since I am running several different projects (try to grow my self-employment, day job, building a pagan church, fiction writing, homestead projects, etc) and have basically worked off of rolling "to do" lists for years, my brain is now like "TOO MUCH TOO MUCH" and shuts down.
No, I can't cut anything out.
Does anyone else experience the TOO MUCH and how do you juggle?
Sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever have a stable flow to my days, sleep especially. If it’s just me and there are no demands then whatevs. But we inhabit a world that always seems to have one #demand or another. Due dates, schedules, meetings, whatever rando decides you need to talk to them at exactly that moment.
In my perfect world there would be a #buffer… space and time. It would allow us to respond as we were ready without broadcasting the delay to outsiders.
:bear_guitar: Ello sweet and lovely Friendos 💜 and #NeuroSpicy 🌶 friends :neurodiversity:
So I am on my way home from a quick grocery trip. Around 9 the person from the building coop will come for the first inspection...
It's messy for sure. But that wasn't a problem the lady on the phone had told me...
I have no idea what to expect and it drives me nuts.
I wanna prepare, know things in advance, have someone with me as I feel insecure...
But hey, it's just me and Arwen so I gotta do the adulting and all that.
It's fine :bear_fire:
When it's done, that is...
Ugh I hate this... Why do I feel such anxiety over this??
Bon sinon on a besoin de plus de mèmes sur le #TDAH (Trouble du Déficit de l’Attention (avec ou sans) Hyperactivité), surtout vu à quel point ce trouble est sous-diagnostiqué ! 😤
I firmly believe that my autistic burnout around 45 is linked to the beginning of perimenopause.
CW
Being Neurodivergent, Hormones, Burnout Crisis, and Menopause
“our […] hormonal changes is different due to the way our brains and nervous system are wired. This unprecedented change in our physical bodies, our chemical makeup, and our brain can mean autistic, AuDHD and other ND people can […] experience cycles of extreme burnout crisis”
I‘m rewatching #TheBigBangTheory, now 2 years after my #autism diagnosis. I dont know what people dislike about this show. Sheldon makes me feel very validated. his friends making fun of him both shows problems of modern society and boundaries we sometimes dont see (like speaking the truth when someone is already down).
@haui#BigBangTheory and #YoungSheldon feel to me like early efforts to put #LGBTQ characters in front of broader audiences. Coded and not discussed. Stereotypical, with a while male focus.
I’m glad they added a similar female character, but wasn’t impressed that only the two #neurodifferent coded characters were permitted to have a relationship. #LoveOnTheSpectrum does the same.
So I’m glad we’re more visible. I just wish it was more authentic.
Hmm. Used to be my most productive hours were after work and evening. That shifted until after kid was asleep. But now I’m finding an early bedtime and waking around 2 or 3am may be a better cycle. Rested, energetic, and no people! Yay!
So, it was good. Very emotional roller coaster. I thought my son was bored but he wasn’t antsy to leave. As we were walking out, he shared that he really liked it. It certainly felt authentic.
The story is focused more on a family and inter-generational perspective, which I think will make it more acressivle and relatable to a broader audience.