I've been told I have an "angry face", or people have assumed I was angry when I wasn't, on a regular basis. My daughter and her friend were playing in the back yard and I overheard her friend ask why I was so angry all the time. My daughter: "He's not angry, it's just his face."
When I was electrical technical supervisor, by mechanical equivalent was called "Angry Doug". We'd known each other for twenty years. He was just blunt, and not particularly angry. People had difficulty sussing the difference, I guess.
I also had the nickname "Mumbles" that went on for years. My daughter: "Rubble, rubble, ruble, heh, heh, heh. Right Dad?".
I've been written up for getting into shouting matches with superiors. I tend to be very protective of the people who reported to me. I never bought the whole "Women are emotional, men are rational." Everyone is emotional, but the degree or type of emotions that are traditionally seen as socially acceptable are different.
I was hoping for some more info. I hadn't found @glasspusher to be an angry sort. 🙂
I much rather be told directly the good or the bad, rather than trying to follow a trail of breadcrumbs to the eventual meaning.
I loaded trucks part time through high-school, worked with fishermen on the wharf, was in the reserves for a while, and worked with contractors for 25 years. From that, my takeaway has been to be direct, blunt and accurate. (As an aside, profanity is punctuation.)
Working in the office though, I try to be more polite, but that can go out the window when things get stressful and deadlines approach.
Great point about culture background here. The degree to which we are comfortable with open conflict is very different, and this would be expected in a Dutch setting.
My experience is with the Swedish work culture, and no, we are at the opposite end of the spectrum. Very rarely being this confrontational with either men or women. (At least not in group settings, can’t speak for how other men treat female colleagues 1:1)
@DebR@grb090423
I recently talked to an esteemed female professor who has been around for a couple of decades longer than me and is very used to being the only women in the room. She explained that (1) male colleagues don't behave the same with each other and (2) this behavior is not ill-minded. On (2), I am trying to adopt this belief. As to (1), this is why I occasionally give it a shout-out in the hope that my male colleagues want to hear.
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