I've been seeing earplug earrings in the "cool/weird earrings" and EDM scenes, but I hadn't seen a detachable version. Since I make and wear different earrings constantly, and I have specifically nice earplugs, I made my own with some cute anodized findings I had. Works a treat.
No I don't sell jewelry online. I sell lasercutting files and consign locally in Portland, Oregon, USA. If there's interest I might write up a tutorial tho.
Prompted by troubleshooting yet another friends ancient BT device.
I think my non-technical background does give me an edge here, as it often does. My first instinct is never multimeter. A lot of my (hubris-filled electronics-'splaining guy) friends get tripped up going there first with any electronics.
I have just always had (and gotten a lot more confident in) my powerful troubleshooting electronics ✨whispering✨ 🤫🤌
@johne can't answer that that broadly. There's too many different scenarios. I can say I immediately go to searching/researching it and seeing if I can find anything actually applicable. I've noticed a lot of guys will resist that for some reason.
The number of dudes I've heard say (offline, assuming friendship privacy) things like:
"Yeah, they just made me a manager for some reason, I dunno, I'm kinda dumb, but I guess I'm good at it and now things are pretty cool and I get to...."
And
"I just invested this 10k I inherited in Bitcoin/shady stocks/a toxic corporate startup/housing I sold to a property company and made a ton super fast you should try it"
It's not the actions that get to me (I mean...not the first thing)
It's that I've heard so many dudes say these things with a slightly guilty puppydog kinda tone, like they SENSE the complex oppression and are looking to me for safety and permission
But not one will bring up oppression dynamics on their own, even just to talk about it. Not to explore it. Not with me, or ever.
It's a constant WILLING turning away from the micro actions that could cause huge shifts for so many other people
I figured out a public viewer for my resume (canva).
I have a wide breadth of skill and experience (really though). I am mainly a technical Project Manager. I need a healthy-ish, chill environment. Remote or at least flexible.
I'm experienced and able, I'm just also going through a real hard time fighting burnout and am struggling with personal loss and grief while job hunting in gestures at tech this.
Could someone confirm for me that this is easily viewable without a canva account, particularly on mobile? It's supposed to be but it's hard for me to tell on my end.
I wish women and marginalized folks of all kinds wouldn't immediately and horrifically consistently call themselves stupid when I offer them my free guide to learning addressable LEDs.
I understand it in my bones. We've nearly all been nonstop conditioned to know that we are not the smart one, the technical one, the one who owns the space of numbers and code and electronics. Each one of us uniquely "knows", from before memory, that we fundamentally don't belong to those things.
The few of us who slip through are reminded every single day that we don't really belong. If we quietly disappeared absolutely no one would really notice, because we were never expected.
The even fewer who get conditioned with confidence and a sense of belonging soon get slapped down in horrific ways, then pushed to never ever talk about it.
This isn't a monolith of a story, of course, but I engage socially about this with a wide range of people, and this is what I see over and over and over.
I'm not going to give a listacle of fixes. It wouldn't make a damn difference. Those already exist.
What I see it come down to, over and over, is that cis white men will ease their conscience by finding where they aren't the problem. And will also see no problem with entering any technical, genius, "smart" conversation, space, hobby, activity, forum, anywhere, with emotionless confidence and ownership.
Every lovely, sweet, smart ally of a cis white man I know also knows they belong to tech.
I don't think, to move through this (and we could), that women and marginalized folks need to move towards learning more and being more brilliant and understanding better.
That would have worked already.
Men, particularly cis white men, need to understand how to give up space. Fundamentally understand not being selfish, even unintentionally. Learn how to include people not as a guilty afterthought. Learn how to feel like tech doesn't even belong to them. Get other hobbies. Just try.
NEVER pull that fucking knee-jerk thing where you call yourself an idiot and how it's "just code" or "just...anything technical". Don't take a skill that already makes most people feel incredibly lost and dumb and small, that you CLEARLY belong to, and call yourself stupid and that it's "nothing" and that "anyone can do it" and it's "not hard".
It's making it much worse. Own the gatekeeping. Acknowledge it's hard. Say they can do it too.
@MLE_online well...I have a deep respect for it because I've been dressing myself outrageously since I was 14 and I feel like I've only nailed my preferred "style" in the last few years. It really is a deep skill, an art, it takes a lot of practice and dedication.
I really like scrolling through shops online, that helps me a ton. I also know to only wear comfortable things, period, which limits my options to a nice sandbox. But knowing what's in and out of that took ages.
@MLE_online going to stylish events also helps a lot to see what does and doesn't work. I'm a party kid and worked comicons for a decade, that ability to see stuff without trying it all helps a lot. Maybe when you go out anywhere, try to notice what you like? Then try finding similar stuff online or at thrift stores. It's a doable learning curve.
@MLE_online Understood, apologies for the undesired direction of advice. I'm mostly pointing out how beating myself against the wall that you are pointing out (yes, this is cray hard) has brought me success. I have about a 75% success rate with stuff from China, specifically AliExpress.
Thrift stores are my jam. And I often google specific terms and find things I like in little pop-up boutiques online and Etsy.
I've also been increasingly using Poshmark and Mercari.
I'm seeing an interesting trend between #hackaday#supercon and #shmoocon. When called out on their disgracefully gross single tone white cis male speaker lineups, they each responded with "we tried reaching out to other types of people (let me guess, a few white women), and they refused us".
This seems to clear their conscience and resolve it for them.
ahem YOU HAVE NOT MADE AN ENVIRONMENT GOOD FOLKS WANT TO PARTICIPATE IN.
@hacks4pancakes ah, I really don't know much about that con, I'm just seeing a ton of posts go by from infosec folks. Should I hashtag something more specific? I'm trying to point at how this is a terrible trend across spaces, but I don't want to do harm or misinformation.
I run a lockpicking village, of sorts (more like a cozy lockpicking lounge), at a local event each year.
The whole purpose is to entice femmes, queers and generally people who have been encouraged to consider themselves "non-technical" to play around with this fun hacker hobby.
I do well, but it's very hard to find accessible, friendly lockpicking guides, infographics or information, especially ones that are not gratuitously patriarchal.
My contribution, as a CPTSD survivor and expert, to the delightful collective #JoinIn phenomenon:
A list, in no specific order, of some tools, tactics and concepts that have pulled me through times I didn't know how to get through, a 🧵 and massive resource:
Search "tapping games" on your phone. Games that make you tap access the left and right side of your brain and helps them cross-connect. It's physically brain-soothing. If you really like tapping, there's an entire therapeutic modality called "the tapping solution" you can download too.
Similarly, if you are having an active meltdown, try good 'ol Tetris. It has interesting research showing that it helps with PTSD.
And, finally, in 2020 I created this completely free, massive 15 page list of the best mental and emotional health resources that have helped me most in my long, often impossible feeling existence with CPTSD and the depression and anxiety that comes with it. I've been updating it over the years. It probably has something for ya, and it's got pretty pictures.