markwyner, to mastodon
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Some words about Mastodon moderation:

  1. It’s hard. No decision is easy and there’s lots of gray area even with explicit rules.
  2. We’ll sometimes debate for a long time on a single post. We do our best to make the right call.
  3. Even so, we sometimes make mistakes. We’re willing to accept appeals when that happens.
  4. We get a lot of things right. You can’t even imagine some of the traumatic things we see.

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markwyner, to Cute
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rolle, to KindActions
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Folks that have an attacking tone don't do any good deeds for their cause. Been seeing this lately on Mastodon too and it makes me sad.

It doesn't make sense that you are an advocate for good things, but patronize people who are trying their best.

Can't stress this enough: Always choose kindness. That's something you can do in any situation. #Kindness #Human #Mastodon #Conversation #SocialMedia

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paninid, to KindActions
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Do you believe that prioritizing kindness, respect, and empathy get in the way of progress?

If so…who hurt you, bro?

#kindness #empathy #respect #FirstPrinciples #ProductManagement

Krisss, to KindActions Dutch
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Goodmorning lovely people,

Rise and shine!

And although it's monday, it's also the first day of the rest of your life! Enough reason to make it a good day if you ask me 😊

As for me, I only had four hours of sleep last night, and I am very grateful right now that coffee exists ☕

Have a great monday, and don't forget to be kind!

#kindness #kindnessmatters

Greetings from Holland🌷

#Art by Baifern
Source: Rawpixel

markwyner, (edited ) to KindActions
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I don’t know who made this, but I’m glad they did. It’s an inspiring sentiment.

Furthering, to KindActions
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One of the things I have been thinking about is how much discourse is stunted by the idea that “I know better than you.” We see it on Mastodon and other social media sites, but we also see it in life, especially if we are a member of an under-represented, marginalized, or minority group.

This one-upmanship crowds out sharing and can make people afraid to voice their opinion or experience due to risk of policing, shaming, condescension, or any of the other ways that people try to demonstrate power over others.

I think it’s worth remembering that we’re all doing life in our own way. We all have something of value to share, and we’re all experts in our own situation.

I'm curious what others' thoughts are about this.

#Kindness #Community #Humanity #Gentleness

markwyner, to ADHD
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This is ADHD. I feel so seen by this. To hear/read these words helps me feel a little less shame, guilt, and anxiety.

Please be kind. Neurodivergence is mostly invisible. You don’t know the struggles some people are facing every day.

Source:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cz5dTCex_Xj/

#ADHD #Neurodivergence #Neurodiversity #Kindness #Compassion #Empathy

A gravel path leading into a small forest. Designed transcriptions are overlaying the video as they are spoken.

taedryn, to trans

Dear society: you could just drop "sir" and "ma'am" and other gendered terms from your public service patter. Literally no one would know it wasn't there, and you'd save so much grief in the world.

"Thanks, have a good day!" has the same weight and impact as "Thanks, have a good day, sir!" No one would know. You could make this change right now, and save the sanity of so many people, trans and cis alike.

#trans #kindness

FiStitchWitch, to coffee
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#GoodMorning #HappySaturday

My body is on strike, its needs #Coffee and healthy food today.

Today will be a day of not moving, #Stitching (no surprises there) and watching #OnePiece until its time for #Formula1.

Make some time for #SelfCare today, spread some #Kindness and appreciate yourself and all that you do.

Have a fabulous day (or night depending on where you are). 😊

fkamiah17, to Life
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Morning all 👋🥰
#Life #Monday #Kindness

Krisss, to random Dutch
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davidaugust, to KindActions
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amadeus, (edited ) to vegan
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I'm a raw / on a journey to many things I have grown accustomed to, a explorer with a focus on creating and for everyone / everything. 😇️

Among others, I invest in animal / human , riding, culture, , , , , , , , , , , , , . 🥰️

NadiaPurge, to KindActions
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People under 30, ask a question.

People over 30, answer. (I'm on Team Answer)

A #kindness and #mindfulness exercise. Boost please!

Be earnest and loving, ok? We were all young once, and if we are lucky, we may be old too.

markwyner, to skateboarding
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This. So much love. This young skateboarder who goes by the name Skatbirker never gave up. And he had a village of support. When he finally pulls it off. So good. Imagine being lifted up by so many people. What a delight.

Source:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C26QnGwLFQn/

Slow-mo version and more clips on his Insta:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C26HtY7Rdp9/

Skatebirker trying the same trick repeatedly. It’s down a flight of about 10 concrete steps in a skatepark. A giant crowd of people are all watching all around him. When he finally succeeds, he raises his hands in bliss while a sea of people surround him and lift him up.

markwyner, to KindActions
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I’m really loving Mychal’s stories. He’s a librarian working at the Solano County library in Dixon, CA. His stories tell tales of kindness, curiosity, and delight. With all the madness around us, this is a breath of fresh air.

More of his stories:
https://www.instagram.com/mychal3ts/

(I made up the hashtag “libraridon,” which I believe is needed. Please join me in using this liberally.)

Young Latino man with big hair and a colorful button-up shirt, wearing his library badge from a lanyard, telling his story up close to a mounted camera inside of a library with books and a colorful rug in the background.

TarkabarkaHolgy, to KindActions Hungarian
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Today I went out with the kid, and lost my phone on the train. I had to rely heavily on the kindness of strangers to get it back, and strangers were, indeed, kind.
Sometimes people are ok.

#kindness

Krisss, to KindActions Dutch
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My neighbour his Vietnamese girlfriend recently got the paperwork to live in NL in order, and moved in with him.

A while ago she stood at my door with some home made Vietnamese sushi. And just now she knocked on my door to bring me some home baked brownies!

I hope they never move out to another place 😇

#kindness

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markwyner, to music
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everyday_human, to weightroom
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Mental Health #actuallyautistic
@actuallyautistic

Reflective moment.
POV
Im going to try to explain something I never have said entirely.

I am a self learner, autodidact.

I try extremely hard not to assume things about people.

Why they do the things they do?
I personally know I’m not all that special.

Unique maybe.

I do have a desire for accuracy.

My version of extreme sports is learning the basics of difficult sciences that explains how the world works.

I’m not good at standard formulas.
I Frankensteined my own that get me by to survive.
Probabilistic math.

I don’t have a love for proving people wrong.

However I do enjoy getting constructive criticism that’s meaninful and helpful.

I’m an observer and a listener at a whole different level.

I don’t enjoy being right or about things.

It’s actually painful!
Why?

Well because in most situations I drill into my head not to assume things not to infer things.

So when I am right, it means I could have maybe helped someone when I didn’t but I wasn’t confident about my ability.

It also maybe means I wasted precious moments of my life figuring something out only to doubt myself. Humility

Alas I was born like this.

I have a very vivid lucid memory. Apparently it’s immersive eidetic. Which is even more of a burden. Nearly completely lucid recall even if I don’t want it.

I hear this often:

“Wow I wish I could remember verbatim like you do”

For me it’s like never being able to forget things, never to be free of pain, never be simply oblivious, sure I can act that way.

Guess what my brain still remembers!!!😭

I have had to struggle, to know the whys of everything, to every thought I’ve ever had. I’ve had alot of thoughts.

I fight with myself, to find and break l my walls and keep my mind open , all my sensory, all my icks, all my ews I’ve had to learn how to deal with them

I’ve conditioned myself over a lifetime
.
How to accept it and normalize it.

Laughing can be a coping mechanism I think in most humans.

Pretty sad when you have to learn microbiology to learn how we are basically mostly living in clean dirt and dirty dirt.

Life within life.

Symbiosis.

Every fear I’ve had to face alone, like we all do, all fears in mind

I can sit it a cemetery on Halloween and have no fear of ghosts or demons, I can fall 😴
I have my own ghosts that are far scarier. 👻
My memories of my own life.

The longer I live the longer I battle it doesn’t get any easier for me. Although
I am still Alive! 🫣

I’ve delved(not A bot or written by ai) into every facet of science to learn how to normalize everything.

I did this even before I realized I was autistic, I knew I was different.

Quite honestly for awhile my imposter syndrome I semi I questioned my own sanity. Was I delusional?

I guess in some ways that protected me as well.

It causes me to triple rethink every thought I think.

I stayed grounded. Conserve energy know when to use it. Timing
Action or lack of action will change the outcome.

Oh and that memory that everyone wants that recall, makes you feel like you’re crazy btw.

When everyone else remembers through thier world view.

I remember through every lens I can see it at the time and every lens I acquire as I expand my world view constantly adding to my updated schema.

Often time people use me as translator to what people mean.
More then once I’ve been asked to read people for people.

I don’t like it.

I reply I’m confident with x amount of accuracy but I could be wrong.

Do most people think in Confidence Intervals?

I am likely biased. I know
I tell people this even though i can pretty accurate about other people in my life I see.
I remain situationally aware.

I’m choose mostly to say silent and mind my own business.

I’ve grown to know myself fairly well, a work in progress I guess.

I dislike being me.

I do love life though with every ounce of my being despite the pain.

I try with what time I have left to advocate for education and acceptance of those who are marginalized and suffer because of ignorance and stigma.

I wish I could wish away my ability, I dislike the highly functional part. I dislike being viewed as better off when I’m truly not. I feel fucking cursed.

The stress and pressure and anxiety is killing me.

When people fight, grow learn and change you notice. You wonder why they didn’t get the version update.

“I didn’t change they will say”.

Debating whether they did or not is usually not worth the effort.

That isn’t the only curse, this savantish type of ability makes me feel alone in a world of billions of people.
I know I am not.
You can talk and explain until your dead yet others may fully get you.

I thought when I was younger. I wonder if I could train my brain like a computer!

I would challenge myself on accuracy of rough off the cuff calculations.

I thought if I remained situationally adaptive and objective and humble and just learned a little more, listened a little more, worked a lot more I could actually manage my own mind.
That was wishful magical thinking 🤔

Turns out I think I did become more accurate.

Again this is impossible right?

To what scale exactly?
I don’t know
To have a basic mechanistic understanding of everything I learn and how it maybe connected to every other cog through different frames.

A liquid pretending to be a solid

Then there’s the devils advocate.

There’s people who have it worse. Some people don’t have these gifts yet have the same deficits or worse than me.

Unless you live in my head you don’t know how much I suffer 😭Do you?
I know that as well and that is even more painful as I know many have it worse.

Does it make my pain less?

No, it doesn’t bring me comfort or feel better, for they seems is too many.

It brings to me compassion and humility.

I swear some people find people find comfort in knowing some have it worse.

News is classed as entertainment blown out of context for engagement.

Social media polarization? Engagement.

Did you get the update we became the product for AI training?
We are the product in a capitalistic merit based economy.
Did you get that update?

Framing is important. Don’t understand change your lens.

How does it make you feel better that there are people out there starving or being violent or mean to one another?

Does it distract you from your own life?
Not me, it compounds mine, ediditic memory.

Everytime I hear someone say , eww this isn’t good enough or too this or too that, it saddens me. I picture people dying of starvation.

Water is yucky?
I have images in my video memory of people in countries not so lucky without clean water and getting diseases and lead or shit in their drinks.

Do you still want my memory or awareness. I’m biased and flawed.
It’s far from perfect, I am human like everyone else. I don’t know much. With every fiber of my being I try to remain objective.

I realize autism adhd ptsd rsd pda hits everyone differently.

I know we have all our preferences and routines and they bring us comfort.

Nature= You and me.
a part of everything even if minuscule.

I see you out in the wild, not intentionally. I swear most of the time I don’t want to know but my brain seems to save it. Unless it’s occupied with something.

However I try to enjoy the simple things like acorns birds,cats,plants, clouds, stars art, and most importantly MUSIC.

I’ve never felt more connected to everything yet so alone. It’s so incredibly lonely.

I just want anyone to know who read this. I am not what I appear. I’m just like you.

Perhaps it will bring some soul comfort and understanding.

It’s pretty much my only hope in writing this.
Perhaps it makes it more real for me.

The funny part is I can’t force myself to memorize.

Even with this recall, I cannot seem to remember my own shit, I guess my mind is trained on the world most of the time while also trying to be present in the moment.

I will admit a knat has more of l attention span than me.

I have far too many faults to judge others.
I’ve made far far far too many mistakes.
When I was younger I thought I was invincible and had shit figured out.
I understood survival, people were a mystery.

I’m a childhood trauma survivor

I am sorry if I seemed a like an asshole.

I didn’t healthily express my displeasure at times when I was overwhelmed.

I didn’t know how and I didn’t know if anyone actually could understand. I still don’t.

I’m sorry for seeming like I don’t care about your problems. I do!

I’m sorry.
I truly am.

As bad as my luck may seem to me. For some reason I’m alive at the moment.
I also have tachycardia most likely from hypervigelence and my anxiety which is tough.

#Exercise

I don’t know how to solve all my own problems. I try always

#Therapy helps. Medicine helps. Less stress is the best.

#Kindness,self care. #Writing
Community.

I’m not being critical, judgemental of anyone else I’m genuinely asking, is this easy/difficult to read?

I’m explaining how my mind works.

Often people use me to remember accurately and fight their battles for them.
Why?
I can see through most masks.
I can see something even if I don’t know what it is then my mind uses some inference to give me possibilities.
Too many far too many!
Sort function sure.

Then with all this, can I even be truly loved if I can never be understood?

In the right frame.

I could be wrong. There’s too much to know. That I know for sure.
Are other people like me?

Do they not understand how it affects them?

Do they feel like they didn’t have a voice which diminished their emotional capacity or was a voice for others? Or is it Alexithima? Likely

I spent a lifetime trying to interpret human behavior. My own included.

Most of my life I was so confused litterally. I somehow emerged from the other end of the tunnel since childhood wondering why

I was audhd dx 2022.

Mostly I found out why.

Perhaps they can’t remember. . They are battling for thier life the best they can.😔 I wrote this to maybe see if anyone else knows what this is like.Maybe someone else will find this helpful. You aren’t alone!
♾️🧬❤️

markwyner, to KindActions
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While there are many things in life that I care about, the one thing that truly matters is how we treat each other.

If we change nothing more than the self-serving apathy that runs rampant throughout all of our societies, we level up in an indescribable way. The impact would be unfathomable.

Love, kindness, and compassion are literally all we need to change the course of our species and our planet.

Source:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C6zo6dHrDEF/

#Kindness #Compassion #Equality #PaleBlueDot #Universe

Close up of an emotional-looking Neil deGrasse Tyson with various clips woven in of space, humans scurrying about, and Earth.

Krisss, to KindActions Dutch
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Goodmorning,

I have some great news:

It's friday 🙌 🙌 🙌

What do you guys have planned for today?

I will be volunteering this afternoon, and tonight I am going to a concert. Looking forward to that very much! 😊

I wish you all a great day, and don't forget to be kind!

🌺 🌺

#kindness

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