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fabi

@fabi@blahaj.zone

I'm the one media warned you about: the raging antifascist vegan trans-nonbinary ambiamorous nerdy kinky climate activist. My special interest is chess. I make music with gameboys and know how to DJ.

Proud member of the club of marxists, anarchists, agitators, looters and people who have absolutely no clue what they are doing™.

#ActuallyAutistic, #Depression, #SocialAnxiety
I post in English (and maybe sometimes German). May include lewd gay stuff.

DMs are open for mutuals, including for flirting and being horny. However, I am in a relationship and we should all respect that.

https://pronouns.page/@BeGayDoFabi
i use arch btw

Matrix: https://matrix.to/#/@fabi:catgirl.cloud

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fabi, to random
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this is relevant when you don't know who you want to vote for in the song contest.
The code for my song is BLAH.
https://fedivision.party/#BLAH

RE: https://blahaj.zone/notes/9t77zzg25p3v00m4

fabi, to random
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I have just submitted my entry for the song contest. ​:blobcat_party:​

fabi,
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It of course includes gameboys, and may contain transgender propaganda ​:Blobhaj_Innocent:​

puniko, to random

Incorporates 3rd-party DRM: Denuvo Anti-Tamper
5 different PCs per 24h machine activation limit

booooooo ​:neocat_thumbsdown:​

fabi,
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@puniko you wouldn't not activate a software at all 😈

cory, to random
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This is pretty brutal https://how-i-experience-web-today.com

fabi,
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@cory i don't know which plugin it is that does it, but in my browser this looks perfectly normal without any popups and "ads", just the plain "article".
Looked at it without any plugins and it reminded me of their importance for anyone's mental health.

fabi,
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@cory okay in this case it's the "I don't care about cookies" extension that blocked all the stuff.

fabi,
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@cory cookie modals are the worst, i hate them from the bottom of my heart, but if i just hide them instead of spending half an hour to search the "no" button that probably doesn't do anything anyway i have so much more time for that thing called "life".
admittedly, sometimes it breaks websites, but in those cases that's probably for the better anyway...

smallcircles, to fediverse
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Witnessing another occurrrence of the anti-pattern this morning inspired me to write some thoughts about this social behavior that is so common on our that is based on mechanics.

On the forum I created a category for (or ) patterns, and the "Reply Guy" is the first entry in what might be turned into a pattern library collection.

https://discuss.coding.social/t/sx-considering-the-reply-guy-anti-pattern/530

fabi,
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@zdl @smallcircles even then, this is not a helpful answer, most people know that dentists exist. This sounds more like an attempt by a lonely person trying to be nice, socially awkward, probably traumatized, with the internalized need to always help everyone with everything. But trying to help is often not the most helpful answer (that's a huge misconception). It only is if someone is asking for advice, in most other cases one should figure out that person's emotions and just do something to make the person not be upset anymore (it depends on the relationship between the two people, but i'm assuming they're complete strangers to each other). In that example, a "i hope it gets better soon" or if it was a town square asking if they want a hug or a soothing drink would be more appropriate.

It's like, someone complains about basic stuff being expensive and you respond with "have you tried destroying capitalism?". Yes, that would be the most useful solution to that problem, but neither you nor the person are in a position where you can achieve that - you can still give them something though if that's something they could use. No matter how much you want to change the world, and no matter how good your intentions are (and I'm sure they really are), in the end you can't fix other people's bigger problems. Only the small and immediate ones. Those you can help with, and then they will figure out how to tackle the root of the problem, at their own discretion.

fabi,
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@smallcircles @zdl @airwhale
Yes.
I studied communication sciences, there's a very basic and useful model one can apply to such situations (the "Four-sides model"), and understanding it can greatly reduce the risk of misunderstanding a message, or giving an answer the other person doesn't want to hear, and analyzing a situation like this in order to not make the same communication mistake with that person again. It's very hard to do this in real-time irl conversations, but online, where you have time to think about what you're writing, it can be very useful and can even help with decyphering things like sarcasm.

To break down the dentist example from what I got from it:

Sender:
Factual level: My teeth hurt.
Self-revealing layer: I want attention, or distraction from the pain.
Relationship layer: You can give me attention or distraction.
Appeal layer: Say something nice to me.

Receiver:
Factual level: Your teeth hurt.
Self-revealing layer: You are in pain.
Relationship layer: You need help.
Appeal layer: Someone should fix your teeth asap.

As you can see, there's a difference in what the sender and receiver say/hear in the message, on several levels. It's of course impossible to always reliably know what a stranger actually wants to express or how they are going to react to your message, which is why it's important to actually say what you want and think about your own appeal, about what you want to achieve with your message, when talking to strangers (or in general, really).

fabi,
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@smallcircles Sure, you are absolutely welcome to quote this, yes 🙂
And yeah, forums really aren't my thing, i'm more of a lurker 😅

fabi, to random
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Petition for Netflix to make a movie about Carlos Dárdano (the OG Sullenberger), his colleague Dionisio Lopez, and TACA Flight 110.
Dude had one eye, lost both engines in a hailstorm, landed safely, refused to leave the cockpit until it stopped raining.

fabi, to random
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I shall write on a huge cement block "BY ACCEPTING THIS BRICK THROUGH YOUR WINDOW, YOU ACCEPT IT AS IS AND AGREE TO MY DISCLAIMER OF ALL WARRANTIES, EXPRESS OR IMPLIED, AS WELL AS DISCLAIMERS OF ALL LIABILITY, DIRECT, INDIRECT, CONSEQUENTIAL OR INCIDENTAL, THAT MAY ARISE FROM THE INSTALLATION OF THIS BRICK INTO YOUR BUILDING." and hurl it through a window at [basically any exploitative big company]'s office and run away.

fabi, to random
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i just woke up from a dream in which i could change the name and gender in my ID.
it was as simple as filling out four text fields (first name, last name, gender, pronouns), and it didn't cost anything extra and nobody asked weird questions about it.

Make this a reality, please. Thanks.

riley, to random
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Really struggling with how much "online content creator" is heavily based around providing very specifically themed "content", when really I want to write about a completely different subject every week.

Trying to figure out what the correct pitch is that lets me talk about controlling your digital life in one video, and then doing a deep dive on Doctor Who lore in another.

fabi,
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@riley people should stop trying to be "online content creators" because that sounds like a monetization scheme for things you might not even enjoy doing all the time.
just do what's fun. if you're happy with it, others will also enjoy it.
The pitch? Riley Rambles? Riley's Revolutionary Retrospective? idk. it's getting late lol

Jain, to random
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:blobcatgoogly: group booping?

fabi,
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@Jain ​:blobcat_boop:​

dgar, (edited ) to random
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One Two Three Four!
I declare a meme war!
Do NOT neglect your !!

fabi,
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@dgar

fabi, to random
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there is no time for sleep
between gaming
and activism
when sleep? i have no idea
require caffeine
will buy tomorrow sometime between vegan protest and climate justice info booth at festival

i may look awake
but that's just my +5 charisma buff from having freshly showered

ned, to random
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Now that's form and function!

"I always love it when people ask me for slightly mad things, this high vis vest corset is being delivered to its new owner tomorrow!" - Wyte Phantom

fabi,
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@ned i need this, but in orange...

fabi, to random
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is blahaj.zone working again? ​:blobcat_blushplead:​
The downtime was horrible, I missed my friendos ​:blobcat_meltthumbsuptears:​ ​:blobcat_huggies:​

fabi,
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@jo Awesome! ​:blobcat_huggies:​ Thanks :3

fabi, to random
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I love how the timing of the beat drop in yesterday's timelapse is just ​:blobcat_chefskiss:​
https://yewtu.be/watch?v=CH0GME7dlyY

fabi,
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Also, I am proud of the internet. You did the thing.

endali, to random

the WOKE LIBERALS have taken over the UNIX-LIKES and changed the MAN PAGES into the WOMAN PAGES

fabi,
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@endali
petition to turn 'cat' into a program that just returns 'meow'

gameplayer, to random

Need to find a being to kiss since my kitties are nyot enough, even if they're kissing me too.

fabi,
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@gameplayer ​:blobcat_kissy:​ (nya, i love kisses)

fabi, to random
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if you can read this you get a hug ​:blobcat_huggies:​

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