Would you disclose your annual income to find the love of your life? Tokyo's new dating app is betting a lot of people will. Learn more about how prefectures across Japan are launching their own "AI-powered" dating apps in an attempt to stave off population decline.
ICYMI: Local legends urge couples to avoid these spots in Japan like the plague. Some are said to be bad luck. Others aren’t haunted or hexed – they’re just places you shouldn’t go until you and your partner have truly tested your relationship.
The instructions on the coin deposit machine’s screen are easy enough to understand. I was so excited as the machine slowly devoured my coins; I always get this way whenever interacting with new technology. Somehow I had some foreign coins mixed into my tub of change, so the machine spitted these out. Ang galing, di ba? #SomethingLikeLife#BangkoSentral#CoDMproject#Relationships
The “gaijin hunter” in Japan has become a general mythology. Stereotypical gaijin hunters seek out foreigners in their romantic life, sometimes just for a casual fling, other times for marriage.
Is Lake Mashuu in Hokkaido dangerous for couples? Urban legend says that if the lake is foggy when you get there and stays that way, then your relationship is destined to last. However, if the fog clears while you’re on the boat, then it’s time to say “thank you, next.”
Inokashira Pond is said to be the dwelling place of Benzaiten, one of Japan's seven gods of good fortune. However, Benzaiten is also a jealous goddess and it's said she'll break up any couples who ride the swan boats at Inokashira Park.
Going to Japan as a couple? Then you might want to avoid the following locations that urban legends say spell doom for your union. Here are the top tourist attractions in Japan you DON'T wanna visit (or maybe you do - hey, your relationship is your business).
Let Them...The idea behind this way of thinking is that negative people are going to do what they are going to do, so you can take back your power by letting them. You don't need to use your precious energy to fight their negativity.
> Romantic #relationships are surprisingly poorly understood by science, partly because they are so difficult to study. Amie Gordon and her lab hope a new #dating#app they are developing will help change that
Is there a more efficient way to check if two accounts follow each other via Mastodon's API, other than fetching followers of both accounts and finding a match?
@stefan Fairly sure there wasn't (for two accounts other than our own) when I looked into it a bit ago. But it you want "do I and this other person or people follow each other?", I'm pretty sure that's how /accounts/relationships works:
"The discussion over separate spousal surnames in Japan is highly emotional. Some claim Japan needs to protect the traditional form of family based on the current family registration system. The debate overlooks the impact the current law has on women in Japan…such as myself."
Once considered taboo due to the mere suggestion that a couple was having premarital sex, cohabitation before marriage is now the norm. “If nursery rhymes are clues to how couples live their lives, ‘first comes love, then comes marriage’ is sorely outdated,” Allie Volpe writes for Vox. Read more about this cultural trend and dive into the question of whether living together before marriage is good for the relationship. https://flip.it/o.Npuz #Culture#Love#Marriage#Relationships
The “gaijin hunter” in Japan has become mythology—albeit one based on truth. Stereotypical gaijin hunters specifically seek out foreigners in their romantic life, sometimes just for a casual fling, other times in pursuit of marriage. But just how real is the gaijin hunter today?
When you hold a lot of space and give a lot of energy, sometimes you end up finding that you're surrounded by people who require a lot of space and energy but who aren't capable (for one reason or another) or willing to hold that same space or give that same energy to you.
There is so much to community building that becomes so complicated, and everyone is unhealed in their own ways. Sometimes those ways are compatible with the ways in which you are unhealed: and you find that you are able to hold space for one another, mutually, and that the space you hold doesn't open up into wounds (or it does, but the very act of holding space becomes healing, less self-sacrifice than a pouring into one another). Sometimes, though, those spaces are incompatible, and the opening of space feels like the opening of wounds, and if not at first then after a time, as though something has rubbed you raw right down to the bone after the accumulation of each time you've let it touch you. Sometimes this is just a critical incompatibility, perhaps you aren't the right people to be in community with one another at this time. Sometimes it's the result of someone not being able to recognize the ways in which they demand. Boundary holding is so vital, but often leads to the triggering of maladaptive defenses and sometimes the ending of the relationship you were trying to preserve by setting the boundary in the first place. Some people advocate for boundary setting loudly, but are also the loudest to criticize you and claim you are abandoning or harming them when you do so.
The bringing together of people and the fostering of intersecting relationships requires time and effort and very careful communication and consideration, and is sometimes the rolling of a snowball gently towards the cusp of a hill: from there it flows so holistically and genuinely and easily, and these people find each other and fold each other into their nets and the shared net of the community. Sometimes it is Sisyphus rolling the ball up the hill over and over again until eventually you realize that perhaps one or more of these nodes must exist in satellite to the whole, and will not or does not desire to integrate within it.
Right now I am tired, and feeling as though critical boundaries must be held. A few of the relationships I've spent the past months fostering are crumbling for their own reasons: one because the other person is determined to remain in a power position that I refuse to engage with any further (giving the benefit of the doubt has to stop at some point, but the loss of this relationship impacts more than just me, which is hard) and the other because boundary holding is causing the other person to feel abandoned. After weeks of holding space for this person through a crisis, at the very moment I need that space held this person is pushing away and yet dragging me towards them -- unwilling to hold space but still demanding mine. And I am just tired, and wondering what patterns exist that push me to continue to forge unequal relationships in my own life, or if this is just really how most people are.
Everything I Know About Relationships, I Learned From Gilmore Girls
I hate everyone in Stars Hollow. They're all immature, narcissistic, power-hungry, ego-fuelled maniacs - some of whom border on psychotic. I hold them in such contempt that I would gladly abandon them all on a deserted island and let nature take its course...
You might think that death is “the ultimate divorce”. But some people in Japan go the extra step of officially parting ways from their dearly departed. Here’s why post-death divorce, especially among women, has risen in recent decades.