IveyJanette

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@br00t4c He was on one of the televangelist shows hyping that crap. "silver solution".

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 The CROWN Act isn't in every state. And sadly,it's not going to be enforced. Here in NM,it passed early this year,but given the discrimination towards Native American and Black people here,I highly doubt it'll make a difference. I went back to the curls in 2009 and grew my hair out. I've had to deal with colorism my entire life. Including in my own family. I've lost jobs and relationships because of it.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@DaNanner @StillIRise1963 My grandma had no idea how to style my hair,so she put the hot comb on my hair at age 4. My mom didn't. But mom tried a relaxer on my hair when I was in high school. It didn't work,my hair fell out. Ditto the curly perm,she still thought my hair was "nappy" and not curly and wavy. They all did.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @DaNanner I used to wear my hair in a greasy curly ponytail in high school. Occasionally I would wear a huge Afro. Once I turned 18, I styled it any way I wanted. I did the flat iron/blow dryer straightening in the 90's and 2000's because it was popular; and also because I wanted to keep my job. I didn't want to wear a weave or a wig like my mom,aunt and grandma. Curls are much easier to maintain.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@DaNanner @StillIRise1963 I thought about doing the Janet Jackson braids a few years ago. Until I realized it was going to be very expensive. Well over $200. Including additional hair,even though my natural hair was already shoulder length.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @DaNanner I've worn braids occasionally. The ends would curl up all the time,so I didn't wear them longer than 3-4 days.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@CStamp @StillIRise1963 @DaNanner My cousins sometimes would flatten their hair with an actual iron,then put the curlers in. It was that or the ol' press and curl in the kitchen.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@DaNanner @StillIRise1963 There were Black beauty salons that refused to my hair because it was "too curly" or even "too white". Or because it was too long. I took my money elsewhere. We don't have many Black salons in Albuquerque,so it's usually a white or Latina salon; do it at home; or fly back home to LA and pay $150 for a damn cut. I do the color myself.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@DaNanner @CStamp @StillIRise1963 Grandma and mom would put blue hair grease on my hair. Especially on the ends. Same stuff they used to press their hair. My hair would feel hard as a rock.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@CStamp @DaNanner @StillIRise1963 With mom and grandma's hair,yes. With mine? No.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@DaNanner @CStamp @StillIRise1963 Royal Crown! Ultra Sheen had was blue grease. They used both. My brother and I would cringe when we would see mom pressing her hair in the kitchen.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@DaNanner @CStamp @StillIRise1963 It was always an adventure watching mom and grandma sitting in the kitchen with the pressing comb,the grease and the towels.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @CStamp @DaNanner Sometimes they would wrap their hair around soup cans instead of cutlers.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @DaNanner Same here. Even when I still lived in LA,I would go to the salon in the mall I worked at instead of the Black salons on Crenshaw or in Inglewood like my mom did. I ain't got time for hearing dumb gossip and sitting around all damn day with my hair in a dryer. I went to the local beauty academy here in ABQ for cuts until the pandemic. Now I go to Ulta every 3 months for a cut.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @DaNanner @CStamp It was.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @DaNanner I went with my mom to a salon in Inglewood once when she went for a weave. When mom suggested to the stylist to do my hair,the first thing the stylist did was break out the old school pressing tools. Even though mom kept telling her that my hair was curly,and it just needed a trim. Bitch refused to cut it. Told me to go "to the Mexican salon" down the street,she didn't do "multiracial hair". We walked out.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@shuttersparks @StillIRise1963 @DaNanner I ain't got time to hear about who's cheating with who at church who's gay, who's going to the club etc. And I definitely ain't interested in watching the Real Housewives or Love and Hip Hop or any of that other ratchet crap. Just do my hair. I have a life. I don't go to church anymore because of the bullshit. And I sure as hell don't want to hear anything about Trump.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @shuttersparks @DaNanner My mom was like that. Always did DIY stuff at home. Even fixing the car. I used to do a lot of cleaning stuff in my apartment until I got sick and had to have surgery. And after my brother moved in with me,I just don't have the energy to do it.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @DaNanner Colorism was definitely going on. Still going on. I've had several Black salons turn me away because of that racist attitude. Fine. The white or Latina salon will get my business. Supercuts will get my business. It's not my fault that my skin is fair and my hair isn't nappy enough for your taste. Not all sisters/hermanas have nappy hair nor dark skin.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@shuttersparks @StillIRise1963 @DaNanner I should have paid more attention to what mom was doing with the DIY. Plus when she and grandma were cooking. When they passed, I struggled for a while. Ultimately learned it on my own.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @shuttersparks @DaNanner I have lupus,so that definitely saps energy. And I was diagnosed with cancer earlier this year,so I'm still trying to deal with that. I had a heart attack in 2020,a hysterectomy the year before,and went to the hospital multiple times last year for dehydration. It's a struggle,but I'm still here.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @shuttersparks @DaNanner I learned to crochet when I was 9,used to make clothes for my Barbies and hats and afghans. I took home ec in junior high before I got kicked out for fighting. Didn't really learn how to cook until I started working in restaurants. And after mom passed. I learned mostly from watching the Food Network and PBS.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@kv @StillIRise1963 @shuttersparks @DaNanner Yes. I never had this on the bird site. Or even on Spoutible or Counter Social.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @kv @shuttersparks @DaNanner I spend more time here than on any of the other sites(X, Threads,Post, Spoutible and Counter Social). I don't have to deal with racist and sexist trolls as much. And no algorithms or ads. And I can crack jokes and (mostly) use language that won't get me censored.

IveyJanette, 9 months ago

@StillIRise1963 @kv @shuttersparks @DaNanner And I still have just under 3000 followers on the bird site. I can riff on politics or culture without hearing it from some idiot.