Lettuceeatlettuce

Lettuceeatlettuce, 4 days ago

T480 can be had on eBay for 200-300 bucks and will perform very well in modern applications. I’ve seen a few that are banged up pretty bad for under $200, if you’re cool with a well loved laptop.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 3 days ago

Right on!

Lettuceeatlettuce, 10 days ago

I’ve been on 1080p since highschool, over 15 years, works perfectly for me. I value high frame rate over resolution/fidelity. Luckily for me, even mid-tier hardware is so powerful now, AAA games on ultra at 1080p can easily hit 160+

I have an AMD 6700XT and a 5800X3D with a 240Hz 1080p monitor, it’s wonderful for me.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 10 days ago

The fact that you’re asking other people about this while being so concerned about all the red flags, is itself a red flag.

Think about it this way: If I wanted you to invest in some company, but I prefaced it with a long list of reasons why the company was really risky and not a wise choice to invest in, would you still invest your life savings into it?

I’ve known several people, men and women who dated somebody similar to your description, a tortured soul/bad boy or girl that was trying to get better. Do you know how many of them it worked out for? Zero, a zero percent success rate. Worse yet, all of them were hurt in the end by that person. It caused trauma, heartache, and in some cases, straight up abuse.

You shouldn’t get into a relationship with somebody who’s not fully healed. It is absolutely possible for people to heal from severe trauma and life circumstances, I’ve seen it happen. But until that happens, you shouldn’t get into a relationship with them. It’s a bad idea for both parties.

If they get therapy, work on themselves, become established, fix their issues, heal their wounds, and are like that for years consistently, then you can think about dating them. If they are truly on the right path, they will be completely fine with it working out or not at that time down the road.

If they aren’t alright with that, then it is a confirmation that they aren’t actually healed because they aren’t healthy enough to accept that happening. A mature and well-adjusted person is patient enough to wait, and mature enough to accept that different people’s lives sometimes go in different directions.

TL;DR Don’t do it. You almost certainly will end up hurt, worse off, and possibly even abused. You might also ruin their healing process unintentionally too.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 10 days ago

Not really, accept that he definitely needs professional therapy from a licensed personal who is experienced dealing with that specific form of PTSD.

Remember, you aren’t his therapists, nor can you ever be, and trying to fill that role won’t be good for either person.

I had to learn this the hard way with a friend of mine who grew up with a very rough childhood. Lots of deep trauma, some pretty horrible stuff. I was trying to act like their therapist without intending it, and they started unintentionally treating me like a therapist.

It caused a lot of problems in our friendship and almost ended it actually. I had to eventually tell them, “I care about you, but I’m not your therapist, and I can’t ever be your therapist. You need professional help to deal with your trauma.”

Lots of space, no even hints of a relationship for a long time, (years). It takes a long time to heal from that level of trauma, and there isn’t anything wrong with that. If at the end of all that, he’s truly a new person, fully healed, and there is still a potential spark, then it’s a different situation.

But until then, And I do mean several years at least no relationship, trust me, you both will be better off.

PS, not sure if you’re also getting professional therapy, but if you can, do it. You very likely need it too, and I say that lovingly. I have received it myself and seen many people I know get helped by it.

Stay smart, stay safe, and best wishes.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 10 days ago

Obligatory reminder:

Email is not a secure medium! If you need truly secure and/or anonymous communications, DON’T USE EMAIL!

Use a platform/protocol designed from the ground up for those things!

Lettuceeatlettuce, 9 days ago

I’m interested to try their Cosmic desktop later this year.

Overall, seems like a solid company, I’ve heard good things about their laptops, although I’ve never had one myself.

Pop_OS as a distro, heard generally good things about. The few times I’ve messed around with it have been fine. The folks that stick with it seem to like it.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 12 days ago

Plasma has been pretty stable for the last several years I’ve been using it, especially X11. Wayland is buggier, but not terribly so, and it gets better all the time.

I’ve switched over to Wayland with Plasma now because it is stable enough for me now, I’m on Nobara.

I don’t really use Gnome, so I can’t speak to that experience.

If I were to vouch for a DE that is rock stable, it would be Cinnamon. I’ve never had any problems with Cinnamon. It’s not super pretty, and it’s a bit clunky, but if I want a DE that just works and gets out of my way, Cinnamon is my first choice.

It’s what I use for my business laptop, LMDE with Cinnamon, rock solid.

I should also add that I’ve always used fully AMD hardware, CPU and GPUs, and never brand new. Always a year or two old, so the Linux kernel has time to address bleeding edge bugs and such.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 13 days ago

Also paid integrations into your existing environment.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 13 days ago

This whole scenario makes total sense to me. Try to put yourself in the role of the woman:

Man vs bear, random encounter alone in the woods. Both can easily overpower and harm you.

With the bear, you know it’s one or the other, it either is going to be scared off by you yelling at it, or it’s not and it will very quickly kill you.

The man, if he intends no harm, cool. But if he does intend harm, it can be impossible to tell. He can lie to you, appear friendly and helpful, all the while plotting to harm you horrifically. The bear can have no such malice.

The bear will not target you because of your race, sex, political views, gender identity, sexuality, or nationality.

The bear won’t pretend to be your friend to lure you into a sense of false security. The bear won’t become enraged at something you say and all of a sudden turn on you.

The bear has no fragile sense of ego that it will attempt to assert if it feels you “wounded” it in some trivial way.

A bear cannot be brainwashed by toxic propaganda or cultural norms about gender roles. A bear will never have any sense of sexual entitlement.

A bear won’t drug you and assault you, a bear won’t call its friends to join in when you are vulnerable. A bear won’t hold blackmail against you after getting you drunk and manipulating you.

If all women had to do 99.99% of the time to scare away dangerous men was stand up tall, puff our their chests, and yell loudly, I doubt we would be having this conversation.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 15 days ago

Sitting in a hot tub as a kid will make you infertile.

Totally an old wive’s tale. I looked it up when I was an adult and found out I had been deprived of tons of hours of hot tub time.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 14 days ago

Unclear, my grandma was a nurse. I thought she should have known better, but then again, maybe back in the day that was considered accurate advice medically.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 14 days ago

Well you assumed my sex, but regardless, that claim is still disputed. Some research indicates that it does temporarily lower sperm counts.

None of that is particularly relevant though, because my family was claiming it would permanently cause me to become infertile.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 16 days ago

For invoicing at my small business, I use Invoice Ninja.

Open source, self-hostable, and they offer cloud hosting. Free for the base version with less than 20 users. It has a bunch of features, you are able to create very professional invoices, define services and products, calculate taxes, fees, etc.

It’s very clean, fast, and intuitive.

For accounting, I use GnuCash. It’s old looking and clunky, but it has a bunch of features and works fine for everything I need.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 16 days ago

No prob! Yeah I’ve been super happy with Invoice Ninja particularly, it’s a really solid piece of software.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 16 days ago

Needs a NSFW tag! Soooo sexy!

Lettuceeatlettuce, 17 days ago

Nintendon’t mind being total dickheads.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 17 days ago

Welcome, friend!

Lettuceeatlettuce, 18 days ago

So glad my job allows me to use Linux as my OS. I do IT, and everybody else in the company uses Windows.

Constant problems, brutal driver issues, OS crashes and lockups, software installation failures, hardware incompatibility problems, it’s awful.

Linux at work, Linux at home, such an improved experience.

I’ll still always love XP though, the last OS from Microsoft that felt like it had a soul.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 18 days ago

I’m happy for you, I wouldn’t wish it on people, it sucks.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 20 days ago

Thinkpad A485. If you’re going used, I would grab a T460, T470, or T480. Really reliable models, all those can be had for $300 or less online, work great with Linux, and last forever. Plus they are decently repairable.

If new, I would also go with Framework laptops. Super repairable and sustainable. And very high quality laptops. My friend got one and it is super nice. Runs Fedora on it flawlessly.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 19 days ago

I’ve heard a lot of good stuff about the Carbons, especially the older ones as Linux machines.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 21 days ago

Eli5: Wayland is a new way for Linux to make things appear on your screen, things like windows, graphics, and even your whole desktop.

The old way was called Xorg. It has been around for a very long time, and works pretty well, but the code is veryyyy messy and many developers wanted a new and easier way to make things appear on your screen, so they made Wayland.

(It’s debatable how much easier Wayland actually is vs Xorg, but at this point most major distros are switching over to Wayland, so it’s a moot point)

Lettuceeatlettuce, 22 days ago

Nope, wasting time and resources on ineffective legislation doesn’t make sense.

Lettuceeatlettuce, 21 days ago

Enacting legislation requires time and resources, it isn’t a cost-free activity. If you are spending those resources on one thing, you are reducing the ability to use them on other things, so you have to be strategic.

Banning menthol cigs is a very bad use of those resources. Consumers in general hate bans. If those bans aren’t universal, they just create resentment in the population and incentives for people to create alternatives that in many cases are just as bad or worse.

In an election year where the Democratic party already is not in a strong position, it is idiotic to waste precious resources pushing for a ban on menthol cigs.

The utilitarian argument doesn’t work; smoking rates across demographics have been steadily declining for decades. And menthol cigs are not drastically more addictive or dangerous than any other cigarettes.

The popular demand argument doesn’t work either, because there aren’t large swaths of the voter base that are calling for menthol cigs to be banned.