EmilyIsTrans

EmilyIsTrans, 4 months ago

I don’t think it is valuable to argue with this person. Anyone who can’t recognise that the inherent power imbalance between child and adult makes consent impossible is probably not available to be convinced in the first place.

EmilyIsTrans, 4 months ago

I don’t think it is productive or helpful to be overly cynical. An ICJ ruling may be too late or insufficient to stop a war, but officially committing a genocide would be headline news, and will erode public and political support for the occupation of Palestine.

EmilyIsTrans, 4 months ago

Obviously it isn’t a foregone conclusion. Even if they come back in favor of Israel, that doesn’t mean people, especially Palestinians, won’t remember what happened.

EmilyIsTrans, 4 months ago

I don’t particularly appreciate your insinuation that because I said Palestine won’t forget Israel’s actions that I somehow support the cycle of violence in the region.

EmilyIsTrans, 4 months ago

Please take the aggression down a notch, I was not the one who claimed you support Israel and I did not intend to make such an implication.

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

Welcome to the party! You have a lot of choices ahead of you, and the best part is that you get to make them. I don’t know where you live, but if it’s a large, reasonably progressive city, there is a good chance there will be some kind of local transgender advocacy and education organisation. They’ll be able to provide support and recommend trans-positive therapists, doctors, etc in your local area, and you should absolutely talk to them. On the odd chance you live in Canberra, shoot me a DM and I can give you recommendations directly!

If you want to medically transition, you want to look into Spironolactone (which blocks testosterone) and Estradiol (girl juice). Medical transition is popular, and I personally love how it has changed my body, but it isn’t required. You aren’t more or less of a girl because of it. There are also options like Laser to remove unwanted body hair or, on the longer term, as well as various gender affirming surgeries. Socially, you don’t owe anyone a coming out. Do it on your own terms and at your own speed. Just be mindful that it can get pretty exhausting to live two lives.

Early in transition was pretty scary for me. I am not a very confident person, and transitioning requires bucket loads of it, even more so when you’re a new to the whole thing. It gets easier though, especially as you build up a community around yourself and your transition helps you feel more comfortable socially. Nowadays I’m happier than I have ever been! I went from a boy who had suffered from severe depression, anxiety, and social disconnection his whole life, to a woman who loves herself and looks forward to the future. That’s my favourite part of it to me. I have so much agency over my future, and I am happy in a way I never thought possible. And I have great tits!

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

Ooo I second the Nevada recommendation, and also recommend Small Beauty by Jiaqing Wilson-Yang

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

Adding onto this, in cryptography this field of study is called “Biometric Failure Rates” (at least it was called that in my beginner course). A good introduction would be this article.

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

This is literally me if you even care

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

Also, credit the artist! This was made by marote03art on Twitter.

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

I recently came out to my family and found out that they had noticed nearly immediately and just hadn’t said anything

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

As you should. Don’t come out till you’re ready~

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

I remember when this article came out, and it has stuck with me as the most pure example of evil. Maybe not evil, but I can’t find a better word to describe the careless, selfish cruelty. They’re building a better world for themselves and themselves alone, and using our sacrifice to do it.

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

🎉 🎉 🎉 I love this community and I cannot be more thankful it is here

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

At some point in high school, before I was even considering that I might be trans, I just thought about how it was a cute name. It stuck in my head for a reason I couldn’t figure out for like 4 years after that, until the reason slapped itself in my face and I started transitioning.

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

Interesting, I always assumed your name had a connection to Ada Lovelace!

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

I just spoke to my parents about it and apparently they would have named me Emily anyway lol

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

If you have curly hair, follow the curly girl method!!! My hair went from a mess to being my most feminine features that makes others jealous.

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

Also, another hair tip, for facial hair this time. Try out safety razors. Shaving with a safety razor gets the closest shave and is dirt cheap.

To shave, partially fill the sink with some hot water (as hot as you can manage (without scalding yourself obviously)), then wet your face with it. Exfoliate (using shaving soap is a great way to do this, since the brush doubles as an applicator and exfoliator). Then shave with the grain. Against will get a closer shave, but at the cost of bumps and razor burn. After some practice you can shave in just a couple of minutes with minimal artifacts.

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

This is a decent introduction, but I’ll summarize the basics.

First, you want to avoid shampoo and conditioner with sulphates and silicone. These chemically relax your hair and build up over time. They work great for people with straight hair (i.e. the majority of the white population that beauty companies target), but not for people with curly or wavy hair. My products of choice for this are Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Curl and Shine Shampoo, as well as the Conditioner of the same range.

Once you have these, you want to cleanse your hair of any built up silicone. This will take quite a while (took a few months for me), because the other main thing to remember is that you should only really be washing your hair once a week. Most people with curly/wavy hair just don’t need to wash it as often as straight haired people. You should also only be brushing your hair while it is wet in the shower.

Then there is technique, which I’ve found isn’t as important but does help. When you dry your hair, you’re supposed to do a thing called “plopping”. You put a towel on a flat surface, plop your hair onto it, and then tie it up into a headwrap thing.

Finally, the rest of curly girl is just experience. You will get to know your hair and how much conditioner and care it needs. It takes a while but is very rewarding!

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

It’s probably at least a little curly in that case. You should be able to wrap a strand around your finger and see it hold a curl or wave.

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

Well you could apply makeup to contour your face, or you could chew a lot of gum which some people say strengthen your jawline?

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

I read all the Garfield strips as a kid, and watched most of the shows and movies out at the time. I have strong memories of picking up as many compilation books as I could from the local second-hand bookfair (along with Calvin and Hobbes, Footrot Flats, Peanuts, etc) and reading them over and over.

Nowadays I don’t really read the comics anymore, but I think Garfield is great fodder for memes.

EmilyIsTrans, 5 months ago

Suit girl is literally me