I demand the server overlords of chaosfem give me werewolf and bisexual emojis!!! I will be shitposting until they give into my demands! And probably also after they give into my demands!
#biphobia / #bierasure is so strange to me. Like, is it really that impossible to imagine that people might find romantic or sexual attraction to others for something besides their anatomy??
Oh I forgot, I'm married to a cis man and have children with him, therefore any #bisexual or #queer feelings I've had were all a self-deluded lie and I was ramrod straight the whole time 🙃
Part of #biErasure is having only one category to be shoved into for everything from "95% attracted to women but married a cis man" like me to "have exclusively dated and slept with men one's entire life, but likes to spank it to naked pictures of women sometimes." If you call yourself a lesbian, that's "harmful to real lesbians who have NEVER been with a man." but certainly, calling oneself straight wouldn't be accurate either. There's also a bizarre level of gatekeeping... How "gay" do you have to be to "qualify" as bisexual, or are you from the camp that thinks bi is a "cop out" and you're either 100% gay or 100% straight? Isn't the whole thing about lgbtquia+++ (or, according to this link, "LGBTQQIP2SA" https://www.loyola.edu/department/lgbtq-services/resources/lgbtq-terms-definitions ) supposed to be NOT locking people into rigid labels??
Unless I'm specifically trying to make a post found by lgbtq+++ people, I just say #queer. Not straight, cis, and monogamous? Great! You're queer. Seems easy enough...? And if you want to search within subcultures of queerness, then you look for that label specifically (bisexual, pansexual, lesbian, nonbinary, polyamorous, etc). But requiring a letter for every variety of queerness to be added to the label invariably leaves other groups out, not to mention makes it inaccessible from a SEO web search perspective (why put up a video essay about growing up queer in a country that still has a death penalty for gay sexual activity if no one can find it?).
Anyway, please don't hate me, I'm actively trying NOT to exclude anyone, that's why I'm in favor of one catch-all word that doesn't have to be infinitely expanded as new "categories" of queerness are "qualified" as "valid" enough to be included...
How is a lesbian to choose who to romance in Stardew Valley?! Do I date the artsy dyke in the forest? What about the cute femme with blue hair that makes me see rainbows when she dances?! Or the adorably nerdy science girl! Oh, and then there's the pretty girl who struggles with depression and poverty just waiting for a butch farm lady to take her away from her struggles!?! And the gamer girl with purple hair...
Now, even more importantly, how is a #BisexualDisaster supposed to choose who to romance in Stardew Valley?!?!
There's all the amazing girls...but then, there's that sad guy I just want to give hugs to as I help him recover from depression. The emo boy who is in a band! Or that fabulous writer with great hair who lives on the ocean?! Or the twink doctor with the adorable mustache!?!
I am mystified as to why this game wasn't originally designed with polyamory built-in.
That said, it's clearly #BiErasure that there is no way to be represented in our inability to sit straight. Where's the option to awkwardly straddle a chair sideways with the bisexual leg sprawl?
Bisexuals don't have to be "50-50". (Imagine a guy who's 80-20. Sure, 4 out of 5 people he likes are femme, but 1 in 5 is masc! You wouldn't call that "straight", would you?)
Bisexuals are still #bi even if we're in a monogamous relationship.
And we're still #bisexual if we're alone. Straight people don't become "non-straight" when they're single!