skylestia

skylestia, 2 months ago (edited 2 months ago)

when we met, my bf never picked up any of my hints, and i gave him many. i mean we met online, had a lot in common, and got along really well right away. i mean he was exactly my type and i was very clear about that as we got to know each other lol. but i only hint at interest until i’m sure, and then i get direct, so i eventually asked him out. he seemed pretty embarrassed for not picking up on the hints afterward, especially the more direct ones, but i just thought he was pretty adorable for it. i’ve never really thought all men are necessarily bad at taking hints in particular i mean i have never put much thought into whether a particular gender is worse at picking up on hints but i’m a woman and i’ve dated and had situationships with men, women, enbies and more and and in hindsight i’d say i’ve been bad at picking up on hints and everyone’s been bad at picking up on my hints so probably everyone’s bad at it lol

skylestia, 2 months ago

i agree; communication is very complicated and for example even understandings of common phrases varies sometimes not just regionally but from person to person, so it makes sense to me that people in general often struggle to pick up on hints, especially the more subtle the hints are, and that’s no one’s fault. for hints in terms of sexual/romantic i think i would also probably factor in self esteem as depression and anxiety are epidemics in our society that are only getting worse as it becomes harder to maintain social lives as third places disappear. low self-esteem often comes with depression and anxiety and people who struggle with it may assume that no one would/could be interested in them or be flirting with them. idk, that at least described me for a long time when i was younger. in the case of my bf he’s also autistic and struggles to pick up on social cues in general, much less flirting

skylestia, 2 months ago

i write, short stories mostly existential horror, and “essays” about anything i find interesting (that really just means i ramble about things i find interesting for several hundred-1000+ words on tumblr); also i made and maintain a personal website, i make mods and themes for things other people make cuz i don’t code enough to make anything of my own; sometimes i make videos but i’m generally too shy to do that regularly; i play video games; i collect plushies; and i recentlyish picked up making pixel art

i also want to get into crochet, cooking, and gardening but my time with those has so far mostly just been using social media to see what other people do. i mean i cook but wouldn’t classify how i do cooking as a hobby lol

i have adhd too, also i’m agoraphobic, and in addition to ideally being able to orbit around several hobbies i also just need things to fill in my time since i don’t get outside very often

skylestia, 2 months ago

what kinds of things do you like to make, grow, and learn?

skylestia, 2 months ago

i’m going to grin and say checkmate the next time my bf and i

and i’m going to moan and say i’m cumming the next time i’m about to either beat someone or lose to someone in chess

skylestia, 2 months ago

lol knowing my bf if i said something like that he’d say something like “actually i’m pretty sure winter’s coming” before he does

skylestia, 2 months ago

i don’t remember voting (also idk who that is)

skylestia, 2 months ago

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/f8bf1552-e1e3-4ca7-834a-c9bfde58710b.png

skylestia, 2 months ago

but i don’t want any where would i put it

skylestia, 2 months ago

😨

skylestia, 2 months ago

i heard this too lol

specifically i heard that they see us as incompetent cats and want to take care of us x3

skylestia, 2 months ago

conservatives don’t get mad at anything they don’t personally do or don’t make things up about other people to get mad at challenges (impossible)

skylestia, 2 months ago

dang i guess whatever data i have left that hasn’t been sold by google and microsoft is gonna be sold by whoever makes these guys cuz i think they’re cute

skylestia, 2 months ago

“Freedom is the right of all sentient beings.” - Optimus Prime

I don’t know if I’d consider it the worst crime ever committed in the history of the universe, but I would consider it very bad personally. I would personally value the life of that AI the same as I would value the life of a human, the same way I would value the life of anything sentient, so I would be against anyone treating an AI that way. Is it worse than genocides? idk maybe i don’t feel qualified to quantify the moral weight of things so big, but ya i’d definitely care x3

skylestia, 2 months ago (edited 2 months ago)

yeah! prairie dogs gossip; crows tell stories, have communities, and some of them even seem to understand money; whales mourn the deaths of other whales

sentience is trippy, and it’s always been questionable to me that we decided we’re the only sentient life on the planet

i already get emotionally attached to, like, roombas and those suitcases that connect to your phone and follow you around, i can’t wait to have a robo buddy

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/e5da6862-a10a-419a-968d-36e383b1d614.png

skylestia, 2 months ago (edited 2 months ago)

i edited my comment a few times because i didn’t feel like i was making sense and being too rambly, it’s 6am (well 6:30am) and i haven’t slept (and cuz after i initially posted i read other comments and realized other people had said what i had said but better x3)

i didn’t mean to imply i thought you were saying genocide is worse than bullying a robot, it’s just that i was thinking about things that could be comparable or worse to me than torturing someone for millions of years and came up with genocide

i took crime to mean something morally bad

i mean i think this is a fun conversation, it’s something i think about a lot, i’m glad to talk about it with other people, sorry if i came across obtuse or pedantic or negative/hostile or anything

skylestia, 2 months ago (edited 2 months ago)

Sorry for the confusion then! I suppose I place some value on life itself (or maybe more fitting in this discussion, on awareness itself)

Which is to say that for me, ending the life of a being who is aware is at least one of the worst things you can do. Like, if I were forced to choose between millions of years of suffering or immediate death, I’d probably pick the millions of years of suffering because at least I’d still be aware. Of course I might regret that decision later on but that’s where I’m at right now. But also I couldn’t imagine being tortured for millions of years and the toll that must have on someone. So torturing someone for millions of years has, for me, very similar moral weight to genocide. Again I don’t feel able to quantify them personally, and for me deciding which is ultimately worse is probably not possible. I’d guess the answer would vary from person to person based on how they weigh life itself vs experiences in life, and whether the conscious experience of being tortured is worse in their opinion than not existing anymore. I consider life valuable because I consider my life valuable (valuable to me, not necessarily to anyone else), and I consider my life valuable because I really enjoy the ability to think about and experience things. One of my favorite thing about us is that we look up into the sky and wonder, look down into the ocean and wonder, look forward in our future and wonder, look back on our past and wonder, that we can look at other people and wonder. That we can look at any of the above and love and write and sing. sentience might as well be magic lol. Having that taken away from me is the worst thing I can imagine happening to me, which might skew my perspective in conversations like this one. And idk if most people would agree with my reasons for valuing life.

skylestia, 2 months ago (edited 2 months ago)

it was me using simpler phrasing in part because i couldn’t remember the details very well

but i was referencing an experiment where researchers wearing “threatening” and “non-threatening” masks interacted with and marked crows, and other crows in that area who they had not interacted with recognized them later. www.sciencedirect.com/…/S0003347209005806 (however that crows tell stories is, as far as i know, only a popular interpretation, their official conclusion, at least of this experiment, is that crows are capable of long term memory retention and fine-feature discrimination)

and simple observations suggesting prairie dogs may have a very advanced language - which went viral in my online circles with people joking that they gossip about us, which probably just stuck with me because i think it would be very cute

i personally believe that animals most likely do communicate among each other and the complexities of their languages just varies, even if most are not obviously very complex. my personal beliefs are that communication is complicated and can happen through more than verbal/vocal language, animals are clearly capable of feeling complex emotions and pain which is enough for me personally to consider them sentient, and (again this is just my personal belief) i believe it’s probably better to treat them as if they are sentient until proven otherwise than the opposite. and just to be upfront and honest with others and myself about my possible biases, i believe in the Buddhist concept of Saṃsāra, and believe that that we’re all a part of the same cycle of death and rebirth

edit found some more info:

prairie dogs: cbc.ca/…/prairie-dogs-language-decoded-by-scienti…

Researchers noticed that the animals made slightly different calls when different individuals of the same species went by. … so they conducted experiments where they paraded dogs of different colours and sizes and various humans wearing different clothes past the colony. They recorded the prairie dogs’ calls, analyzed them with a computer, and were astonished by the results.

“They’re (prairie dogs) able to describe the colour of clothes the humans are wearing, they’re able to describe the size and shape of humans, even, amazingly, whether a human once appeared with a gun,” Slobodchikoff said. The animals can even describe abstract shapes such as circles and triangles.

Also remarkable was the amount of information crammed into a single chirp lasting a 10th of a second. “In one 10th of a second, they say ‘Tall thin human wearing blue shirt walking slowly across the colony.’”

crows: washingtonpost.com/…/78d97a9e-ec48-11e5-b0fd-073d…

“They know your body type. The way you walk,” Dyer said. “They’ll take their young down and say: ‘You want to get to know this guy. He’s got the food.’ ”

Scientists have known for years that crows have great memories, that they can recognize a human face and behavior, that they can pass that information on to their offspring.

that article also mentions that crows have been observed to make and use tools, which is something i knew but forgot to mention and is interesting and feels relevant to this conversation

skylestia, 2 months ago

relatable :3

skylestia, 2 months ago

a cutie

skylestia, 2 months ago

i’m similar but for me i prefer physical books because if i’m reading a physical book i’m probably not sitting near any of my devices so there’s less chance i’ll get distracted lol

but audio book is a strong second because ya i can do other stuff while listening to it, the same way i listen to podcasts and stuff

skylestia, 2 months ago

why does it make me uncomfortable

it’s like an uncanny valley fork

skylestia, 2 months ago

I got the Tin T2s years ago and they’ve been my fav way to listen casually since then!

Full sized headphones unfortunately give me headaches but I remember the Fostex T50rps fondly, I was never brave enough to try modding my headphones but what you’ve done sounds awesome!

I used to collect headphones but I moved across the entire US a couple years ago and I couldn’t bring my collection with me and the hobby’s just too expensive to get back into for me right now lol. Sony MDR 7506s were my fav for a while, but I only had room for my fav earbuds and one pair of headphones in my luggage and I ended up grabbing my Tin T2s, T3s, and T4s; Moondrop Starfields; and House of Marley Liberate Air and House of Marley Exodus. Exodus being the full sized headphones I decided to keep. Not the best sounding for my taste but I like the way they look more than any other headphones I had and since I do most of my listening through IEMs I decided that was good enough lol

Thanks for sharing, I love headphones

skylestia, 2 months ago

Thanks, yeah, I gave all the headphones I couldn’t take with me away to friends, though, so they went to good homes :)

The 7506s did have very clean sound! That’s my preference which is why i liked them so much :3

The Exodus’ don’t sound bad, they just have too much bass for my tastes but I’m pretty happy to eq it down in software. I just really like the wood look of them

skylestia, 2 months ago

well my bf is catholic so that gives me an in