Apytele

@Apytele@sh.itjust.works

I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.

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Apytele,

I’m definitely praying the most for the Palestinians right this second but I’ve been saying since this began that I’m also really not looking forward to antisemitism becoming cool again.

Apytele,

…I have only the vaguest understanding of why this is important or how much, other than I really don’t want him to not face consequences or god forbid wind up in office again. Like are they actually going to send him to prison? If they do send him to prison, are the alt-right insane enough to try to spring him? Does this make it easier or harder to discipline politicians in the future? What is the weirdness I keep hearing about various judges being on or not on his side or is that a different thing?

Honestly more than keep me constantly anxious the 24h news cycle mostly just keeps me constantly disoriented. I can never keep any of these stories straight or remember which ones do affect each other.

Apytele,

Go to Archive of Our Own, search up your favorite book or other piece of media, use the sidebar to filter for your favorite relationship and scroll down to “exclude” the interloping character. Archive of Our Own is Here to solve all of your precisely tagged story needs, nOTPs included.

Apytele,

Could be worse. You could have named him Hugh Jazz or something.

Apytele,

here’s your sticker for being the rightest on the internet today: ⭐

Apytele,

I’ve met some people in those industries whose poor luck in life (particularly prolonged poverty) has led to some unpleasant personality quirks, but that’s less of an issue of personal moral failings and more of an indictment of the society we live in.

Apytele,

Oh that’s been my general approach for some time now. I also work with an underserved population (that’s how this cropped up in my social circles) but damn that’s dark.

What hobbies or volunteer work require creative problem solving from lots of different areas?

I’m a bit of a jack of all trades. When I work on a project I use anything from woodworking and sewing to chemistry and physics to human physiology and psychology. I also like reading up then chatting about random science and history and art stuff. I like working with computers occasionally, and I’ll just randomly throw some...

Apytele,

maybe. idk if I’m polished enough in those areas to provide the results people would exist, but maybe some light handyman stuff? It would certainly make me a lot more friends.

Apytele, (edited )

see? The teacher just forgot to add the rest of the problem! I completely didn’t think about the exclamation point as a factorial symbol. That’s actually a pretty brilliant joke despite needing some explanation.

Apytele,

Look, I’m not mindlessly scrolling on the internet because I want my brain all the way on right now.

Apytele, (edited )

I put a cheap chunk of foam posterboard in a cheap art store metal frame (the kind where you buy the top and sides separately for $10 each so you can get the right size for odd-shaped pieces) and a few cheap sticker books to make a base layer. Now when I get a nice big bumper sticker or whatever it goes on whichever part of the sticker wall I like least. Now I have:

  • somewhere to put all the stickers that’s not going to have to get thrown out when it breaks (like a laptop or travel mug)
  • wall art I can easily take with me to new apartments (it’s not very heavy so it hangs just fine on command strips or a monkey hook).
  • a conversation piece to chat about with guests and sometimes post on my otherwise sparsely populated facebook that’s interesting to the people I keep in touch with that way but largely noninflammatory.
  • and that also makes an easy gift idea to provide to acquaintances, coworkers, etc. who don’t know me super well but want to get me a small, low cost birthday or holiday present.
  • a designated place that stickers belong. I still have to decide where on the sticker wall they go, but that’s a much smaller decision.

Might not work for everybody, but this was my solution. I’d post a picture for you guys but I don’t really want y’all to be able to identify the last couple cities/neighborhoods I’ve lived in.

Anyone else find the decision to code Raava as femme and Vaatu as masc an interesting (although not necessarily bad) choice? (64.media.tumblr.com)

I’ve been doing a lot of reading into various spiritual concepts and practices from around the world and typically light/order/yang is masculine and dark/chaos/yin is usually feminine. Is there another concept that’s being referenced or is this just a minor but interesting artistic decision?...

Apytele,

No I had the exact same thought although my flavor was more “they were afraid to make the bad guy feminine” which is just a common misunderstanding about representing women in the media.

Apytele,

This is the concept I was looking for, yeah, and with AAAAALLLL the weird gender baggage too.

Massive issues with sleep and desperate for a solution.

I’ve been struggling with sleep issues for over a decade now. My Doctor has prescribed me all sorts of medication, all of which has had many adverse side effects. What I do know that works, is Xanax. My wife was prescribed it for some stress issues and occasionally will give me one so I can finally sleep. Obviously asking my...

Apytele,

Yeah Xanax is literally the worst thing possible for this, especially as a frequent thing. It’ll significantly worsen your sleep quality in the long run. (Hi I’m a psych nurse and I meet a lot of people stuck in insomnia hell because they’ve been slapping a Xanax bandaid on it for a few years while it just continued to devolve and now they’re basically psychotic because they never actually fixed the root issue.

I’m also hearing a lot from you about medications and next to nothing about any lifestyle changes. No medication will ever actually fix this kind of problem. Medications just give you a leg up on fixing yourself.

First of all what stimulants do you use, especially caffeine and nicotine? (I would also hope you already know to avoid meth and cocaine and not take stimulant ADHD meds at bedtime.) Are you avoiding them in the last 6 hours before bed? A lot of people (especially with ADHD) will say stimulants calm them down but what they’re actually feeling is a change from their baseline restless anxious awake to a focused, productive awake. The second one feels more settled, and can actually help you fall asleep briefly if the specific problem is difficulty holding still long enough to sleep, but it’s going to completely fuck up your circadian rhythm in the long run.

Speaking of circadian rhythms, are you trying to keep your body in a steady daily routine? This includes a consistent bedtime, but your mealtimes and daily physical activity are part of your circadian rhythms too. There’s a lot of different schools of thought on how to time meals and exercise to best support sleep, but the general consensus is just don’t do either right before bed. I would also recommend adding a structured “wind-down” period to your nightly routine that takes 15-30 minutes where you do one of like three basic things:

  • something mind-numbingly boring
  • something you’ve always found soothing/comforting
  • Journaling about the day to give your brain a head start on the memory processing it’s about to do.

It’s also very helpful to create full sensory environments that you use to trigger pavlovian responses. You know how pavlov’s dog drools when the bell rings because it’s used to food showing up when the bell rings? The biggest difference between you and a dog is that you get to decide what you want to be trained to do. The downside to this is that it can take a while to train these responses into your body, so be patient and don’t just give up after like a week. So you’ll want to create at least two full and distinct sensory environments. The specifics don’t matter as much as creating a consistent routine for yourself, but here’s some examples of things I’ve tried or seen people try:

Alert

  • Sight: Curtains open / sunlight / full spectrum white light is the input that aligns most closely with most people’s existing natural rhythm.
  • Sound: Music, white noise of people talking in the background.
  • Smell: Essential oils are actually really good for training pavlovian responses in yourself because of how powerful scent memory is. A lot of people like to incorporate citrus-y smells for alertness, but personally I actually really enjoy just keeping my used coffee grounds from the morning in a cup on my desk. That also brings us to the next one…
  • Taste: Coffee has a pretty distinct taste that most people associate with alertness, and you can get a similar taste from chicory root and/or decaf coffee, but one real cup right after waking up shouldn’t mess you up too bad. Chewing gum is also an option, however.
  • Touch: The big one for me doing classes from home during COVID was still getting up and putting on “outside clothes” even if I was just sitting at the computer at home.

Rest

  • Sight: usually red-yellow spectrum light, and much lower brightness around bedtime. You can turn on a red-shift filter for most electronic devices these days, and LED bulbs also often come in a yellow-orange incandescent style color (and a lot of hobby/makeup lights have multiple color settings for this reason as well, white for when you’re working, orange/yellow for resting/relaxing.
  • Sound: some people listen to soothing music, I conditioned myself to fall asleep to the sound of a raging thunderstorm because I sleep during the day and work at night, and the thunderstorm sounds easily block out daytime noises.
  • Smell: Lots of options here too for essential oils or other scented products. You could also use a specific lotion or wash your sheets in a specific scented detergent. A lot of people say they find lavender scents to be particularly soothing, but again, the exact sensory trigger isn’t important as much as you picking one to use consistently.
  • Taste: Herbal tea is my biggest recommendation here, but you could also go with a small snack/sweet as part of your nightly routine.
  • Touch: We already covered wearing different clothes, but some additional options include a weighted blanket or one of those compression sleep pods (I just got one to try out recently and like it so far!)

Anyway like I said, these can take a while to train your body to do, so pick things that will be easy for you to do, set up your space to make it as easy as possible to keep doing them, and keep at it. The most important thing is consistency and routine.

Apytele,

Ty! Sometimes it’s nice to give you guys tips because my patients usually just start swearing at me at the suggestion that they may have caused at least some of their own problems.

Apytele,

I’m glad to hear that but how much alcohol? If you’re maintaining a constant blood alcohol level and get the shakes when you try to quit you should go to the hospital/ER and have them help you withdraw because those shakes can eventually turn into full blown seizures.

Apytele,

Mmmm. Yummy yummy norepi…

Apytele,

I perceived it as angled towards the observer, but now that you mention it I can see it that way too.

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