If you show the value of a victim, you feel empathy. This increases the desire for equality but you feel bad: it endangers your health.
On the contrary, iIf you stress the mistake of a victim, you protect yourself: you feel like it should not happen to you. Society supports such detachment if the perpetrator is a white man or a police(wo)man.
Blaming the victim justifies inequality, discriminations, violence by the strongest. It normalizes (adult, white, male or cis) privileges. Therefore it normalizes patriarchy and white supremacy.
I know the "reasonable and realistic" thing we do is let the sociopaths guide our way into the future but it's the youngest who'll deal with the worst consequences of all these bad choices.
Maybe listen to the kids.
Fun fact: They mostly agree with scientists.