@HeavenlyPossum I love this and needed it today. Honestly, I feel like a massive burden sometimes, but if it wasn't for my kid, I don't think I would keep going. They need and want me around, and I can't be that much of a burden. As you said, we all depend on people it is the nature of being a social species.
Unfortunately, we boil outsources down to very narrow spans of time to discuss our utility, which is both unfair to ourselves and unrealistic for the true nature of our utility to others.