I really dislike the current use of red flag. Seems it’s used for any personality trait one doesn’t like instead of being an actual red flag. I think people who freely use the term red flag are judgmental and thats a big…red flag…
What do you think red flag means other than incompatability? It’s not like the usage has changed, it’s always been meant to signify “I don’t like this about you”.
I don’t disagree with you about judgemental people overusing it, though. But that’s just judgemental behavior in general, I think you might just not like judgy people - which is fair.
I use to think a red flag was a telling sign that someone isn’t who they say they are, borderline psycho or have other underlying issues such as being abusive or manipulative.
I worded that poorly but I said it was a telling sign, like a warning. Maybe the person spreads rumors or compulsively lies. Granted, it’s always difficult to spot signs of true manipulators when you are the victim. But you’re probably right though, it might just be my interpretation.
I met the new intern who’s going to deal with my meds prescriptions for the next 6 months, omg she’s so cute it hurts. So here I am, explaining to her everything that is wrong with and why I’m a train wreck… It hurts
That’s how I got into the majority of my relationships! I realized that I had like no game whatsoever and I just stopped trying, and weirdly enough that seemed to work okay.
The key here is that people can practically smell strong emotions like anger, hunger, fear, anxiety, and lust. Free yourself from those - basically run out of fucks - and you can pass for someone that just oozes strength and confidence.
“Red Flag” is a term assigned to events that are foreboding of terrible consequences, such as a man who talks a lot about his ex and collects firearms or a woman who lacks empathy towards others and drinks cinnamon whiskey.
The meme therefor translates as:
“When you find a nice good person who is dateable but you yourself have become the problematic person in the potential relationship.”
Personally, I found that it’s all too easy to mistake a differently shaped pool for a kiddie pool. Most of them are as hot as they are, because they’ve got some deep cuts, always thinking of themselves as ugly. Most will also have stories of sexual harassment to tell.
Doing all the sports, makeup etc. does bind time, which they cannot spend pursuing interests that you share. And if you dismiss them for that reason, then of course, they will never tell of their darkest waters, which will make them look all the more like a kiddie pool.
I didn’t mean to dismiss good looking people with great personalities. Sure, sometimes their interests don’t line up with mine or they may be interested in things commonly viewed as basic but that doesn’t dismiss the complexity of their character and I didn’t mean to insinuate as such. I’ve just noticed a trend of people who think that their looks will take them everywhere in life and have willful ignorance towards the intricacies of life
Oh I may not meet those people. I tend to find those who’ve got where I’m going tend to have a thought or two in their head. Maybe it’s an odd one, but it’s there.
If I’ve learned anything, it’s that “date-able” is never to be confused with “sex-able”. Of course, like all good advice, this is easier said than done.
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