since I still don't know of any hideable spoiler markup here on the threadiverse
[You should have had to click to see this text.](#spoiler) will work for this magazine, because of how its CSS is set up. However, there are issues with it working across instances and maybe across platforms (e.g. mobile vs. desktop). There’s more discussion of that here. So giving warnings is still probably good for now. As a quick test, I’m going to try to spoiler something. I’m typing from my mobile phone on kbin.cafe. You should have had to click to see this text.
Shiba is SO obsessed with the MC that several of the routes have "bad ends" that have her marry him anyway.
Oh my god I love this concept so much. I’ve been looking for a game where that happens, because I plan on it happening in the otome I want to make!
Those who like to wear down a distant, professional LI until his control breaks will have a great time here.
Fujita didn’t catch my interest until you dropped this line.
Hideo’s content warning thing sounds incredibly fascinating, not going to lie. I might not be into that in a sexual manner but oh my god is it ever ripe for drama yes please please please
I’m usually not interested in otome in historical Japanese settings, and I heavily prefer fluff to dark things (as a personal preference. I believe stuff with “problematic” content has a right to exist—I’m just usually not too interested in taboo things). However, your descriptions of the LIs has piqued my interest and I might have to give this one a go!
I can't believe there aren't certain segments of the internet up in arms about it. There's quite a bit of "problematic" content especially with regard to age gaps, consent issues, and family relations.
Also, my general perception is that otome seems niche enough that we generally don’t get the purity police chasing after us to make sure our content has Only Good Messages™. And its audience is adult women who are able to separate fun, consequence-free exploration of stuff in fiction from its harmful reality.
Thank you so much for the lengthy review. It’s really helpful for this community.
On my current kbin.cafe account, spoilers don’t work. Also doesn’t work through my Lemmy account, so it was definitely good to be considerate of people outside kbin. It does work on kbin.social though! At least for me, where I checked on mobile and am not using any plugins for any site.
I feel the reason people are getting on Vyn is because a psychiatrist not following the rules hits a lot closer to home for some people, whereas the other careers are more removed from the average person’s life so it’s easier to let it go. And they might not be considering the fact that it’s playing fast and loose with realism in re: what the careers are actually like as well as the feasibility that the characters are that good at it.
Some flaws get on nerves more than others, or jerk people back into a reminder of an unpleasant reality they’re trying to escape with the fiction, which is why I imagine some characters’ flaws are getting ignored and others are getting picked on.
People are free to talk about their discomfort and analyze characters’ red flags, but from your posts it seems like it’s less discussion of these things, and more actively shaming people who enjoy the characters and/or narrative for daring to enjoy something with problematic elements.
At least, this is my guess as an outsider who wanted to like Tears of Themis but dropped it early on because I really hated the card battles. It’s less of a “ToT bad” thing and more “ew, a genre I personally don’t like”.
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A discussion happening over on beehaw about problems with federation and moderation, and on fundamental issues with Lemmy itself, and what would go into making a fork vs starting something new.
The impression I get is that Beehaw is trying to seclude itself not to be an echo chamber, but because an admin recently saw CP get posted and is traumatized by that, and it’s really highlighting the lack of mod tools. They want to moderate the space to ensure it’s nice (and it’s frankly needed. I made a Beehaw account at one point in time. I reported quite a few not-bigoted-but-still-nasty posts) and right now being federated with everyone makes it way too hard because even if 1% of posts are anywhere from “not nice” to “you literally posted child porn,” 1% of 100 is easy but 1% of 100,000 could be a lot of work.
It could be something from today, the past week, or whatever. All things big or small are welcome too. I'm sitting outside today as a a part of my daily routine--it's nice and sunny out, and there's a gentle breeze which feels very relaxing. Doing so is pretty nice between the time I spend at the computer.
I never got why conservative got crazy if you specify a pronoun, but at the same time expect you to specify whether its, it’s Mr/Ms/Miss (and often don’t take Dr as an answer), looks like the same question
I’ve gotten very very used to being asked for titles on forms and the like. I’ve gotten used to respecting other peoples’ pronouns.
I have not gotten used to being asked for my own, and I don’t like it.
I understand that you can look just like me while having a gender identity that does not match my own—some men like to present in a feminine manner sometimes while still being men, and some people are non-binary, third gender, agender, etc. but might still dress in a very feminine way for whatever reason. To cover all your bases, ask pronouns, because guessing “she/her” at a feminine presentation in a body with a feminine shape won’t always be right. If you want to maximize your chances of being correct, you need to ask.
But whenever I’m asked, I also wonder if I’ve presented in a way that signals anything other than “woman” (which frequently but does not always line up with feminine presentations from feminine bodies). Did I just totally fail at presenting the way I want to and if forced to assume you’d guess I’m third gender, or are you being inclusive and considering that people who present like me aren’t always women? It’s the privileged, cis-woman version of “did you have to ask because I failed hard at passing, or did I pass and you just ask everyone this because not everyone conforms to the gender binary?” I’m really used to my gender being assumed and assumed correctly, and am not comfortable with people being unsure or even assuming wrong. I’m basically getting a microdose of what many non-cis, non-binary, and/or nongenderconforming people have to deal with, and I don’t like it.
I also understand it is probably for the benefit of most people (I’m aware of some non-cis people also disliking people asking pronouns, with reasons being along the lines of “please assume, I’m a binary trans person and asking makes me worry I don’t pass” or “I’m in the closet right now and asking my pronouns makes me choose between outing myself and misgendering myself” and it’s worth finding some solution for this) for asking to be normalized, so I let my personal discomfort and dislike go. After I ask if they asked pronouns because they honestly thought it’s super likely I don’t use she/her in which case oh god what do I change so I can make the assumption be that I use she/her, or if it’s just them trying to be inclusive and cover all bases which is good and respectable.
Thanks for not cutting us off. I sub and post to a lot of lemmy.world communities, some of them small, and wouldn’t want to have to stop contributing or make a new Lemmy account.
In the context of VPNs for example. Some VPNs store and provide information about what sites you go to third parties. Third parties analyze it and figure out what adds to show you. Hmm… then let them show me those adds they want to show me. I do hate adds as a whole and use an add blocker, thus. But I couldn’t care less what...
I probably should care about what big companies are doing with my data, but honestly I feel I’ll just be one more person in a group of a million. Companies won’t care.
What I’m scared of is stuff like the example above. A dedicated person trying to connect my online identity to my real-life one.
I’m cool with telling people in real life almost anything about me sans my SSN and passwords. I don’t consider any of it personal and have probably too much trust in random strangers.
I still recognize others might not be like me, and don’t shame them for their choice to not share details they consider personal. Even if it’s something like what their favorite food is. A little weird in my opinion, but I’m still not entitled to that information.
I’m also aware of how people can use information against you. I trust you not to go trying to commit identity theft with my birthday and SSN and real name, but a bad actor scraping the web for SSNs totally will. So I have to hide some things. I’m definitely not ashamed I was born on DD-MM-YYYY with the name Firstname Lastname and assigned the SSN 000-00-0000, but I also know people will use this combination of information in order to harm me. Is their intent to hurt me specifically? Probably not, they just want to spend money that is not theirs. Will I get hurt anyways? Yes. And if I’m not careful about it, a lot of other information about me (like my hobbies, the way I type, etc.) can be used to link my online identities together and eventually find one of them that tells you I am Firstname Lastname, and a different online identity that tells you I was born DD-MM-YYYY (I should probably go scrub my birthday off everything). This, even without the SSN, is enough to get you trusted as being me for a lot of things, like when you call into a pharmacy. And I ask the customer service person to pass on my complaint about that about 10% of the times I call into such places where the security should probably be tighter. My SSN might be harder to find because I don’t talk about what it is, but I hear they get bought and sold online pretty often. Some website that did need my SSN gets hacked, and now that’d be ripe for the taking too.
As another user said, it’s good to ask these questions. We shouldn’t shame people for asking. I’d rather ask a question and look stupid for needing to ask it once, than be ignorant forever. Could they have just searched “why should I care about privacy” online and gotten tons of answers? Yes. I’d also imagine that not everyone grew up with the norm of exhausting all other avenues of information before you ask other people for help.
As for how they asked the question, I’m just reading it as them saying they don’t care about privacy, not that we’re all idiot twats for caring. I think it’s an honest question, not a disingenuous “why does anyone care, you shouldn’t and you’re all stupid if you do.”
I totally get your point about the vegetarian forum and agree with you, but this is c/asklemmy, not c/privacy. I’ve been around the Fediverse long enough to know it’s generally a pro-privacy environment, not everyone else has been.
Again, I’m really not seeing the “I don’t see why anyone else should” part in their question, I suppose we’re interpreting it differently.
Once I wondered why everyone cared so much about something I didn’t. I wanted to give what seemed like most of the world the benefit of the doubt instead of dismissing their care as invalid and stupid, so I sat and thought about it and came up with a guess.
My guess was way off base. It correctly explained some tertiary aspects of why people cared, but totally missed the primary reasons. And until I had it explained to me, I probably would have continued to miss the primary reasons for my entire life. Sometimes it’s useful to get the answer from the horse’s mouth instead of guessing on your own.
But I definitely understand the bit about people getting upset when the things they care about are invalidated. One of my Things is people just assuming the best of each other or at least not namecalling each other when assuming the best is foolish or impractical, so I reacted to your comment and wondered if I should have because half the time I get a nice exchange like this one we’re having, and half the time I get some condescending, snarky replies. And the condescending replies feel very bad.
I definitely haven’t seen questions like this asked at all, let alone repeatedly, which is probably where part of my patience comes from.
wait, why is everyone so interested in everything I do all of a sudden? Why is every corporation suddenly collecting all my data and giving me free stuff in return while raking in billions of profits? Hm, sus
This never occurred to me. I found articles about privacy and the risks that were out there as a young child, way before I noticed any kind of change in levels of privacy (didn’t notice any change myself). As a kid I wasn’t aware that certain corporations were making billions, I just enjoyed the free ride and then saw all the articles about privacy risks. And nothing bad ever happened to me and I didn’t see articles about bad things happening to people, so I still didn’t care (after all, I was on Android, I could just… deny this app permission to access something, problem solved! At least that is what I thought) until I saw someone get doxxed. I’m 18+ now, but sometimes you have kids online who don’t obviously seem like kids because you can’t see them online, and thEy Arent TypIng l11k3 dis!!!! or making constant baysic english lenguige missteaks but use regular English at the same level of fluency as adults. If you transplanted my 10-year old personality into a 10-year old today I could easily see them getting on the Fediverse and passing for an adult for awhile, because my 10-year old self spoke and wrote basically the same way I do now, minus the swear words and life experience.
And also, the fact is most people just don’t care about stuff until it affects them or someone close to them. It sounds nasty and I want to be better than this, but the fact remains we all have a limited amount of care and energy to go around. I mostly try to fix my own issues, not exacerbate anyone or dismiss anyone else’s, and help out where I can.
I’d imagine if you’re not in tech circles you also don’t find out much about privacy risks. I really try to extend the benefit of the doubt to people, give a way they could reasonably not know things, because I know I’m arrogant and want to counteract my own “oh my god how do you not know that you fucking idiot lmao I’m so much better and smarter than you” tendencies. And I truly cannot know what things are actually like outside of my experience, at most I can just read about them and get some idea.
As a moderator of a Lemmy instance, you currently have two options to take: pushing users first to your local content or content from all instances you federate with. These options come with the costs seen in the picture. The moderator of another instance has the same choice. However, in this scenario, they will both always...
I do the exact same as you, with the exception of a few topic-specific instances, where the local communities are only about that topic. There I will actually use Local as default.
At least on my Kbin instance, going in All and Local opens me up to doom-and-gloom “big corporation and alt-right bad” news and outrage bait.
I agree wholeheartedly with “big corporation and alt-right bad” and that they’re the cause of too many of the world’s big serious problems. I’d also rather spend my time on Kbin enjoying what I see instead of getting mad. I can already find out what horrible thing a corporation or alt-right politician has done from the regular news, without the understandable but exhausting comment chain of outrage.
Even without an algorithm shoving it down your throat, outrage bait will rise to popular status on its own. Unfortunately, getting mad at and feeling superior to the idiotsincars, choosingbeggars, etc. is kind of crack to our brains. I’m no exception, which is why I have to only look at /sub. I have to keep it out of sight, because if it’s in my feed, I’ll click on it and get mad too.
So how do I find new stuff? There’s a lot of communities out there whose purpose is to advertise other communities. I subscribe to those.
I’ve finished all I currently have available to read. I am “currently reading” some incomplete series (or at least series whose English manga version I do not have access to):...
I think I heard someone mention something like this in real life, but I forgot who said it so I can’t ask them, and looking at the game’s website and Steam page description didn’t answer this question for me.
When I mean “specific,” I mean things like something dedicated to a certain genre, a certain video game, to gaming suggestions, to asking whether you should buy a certain game… anything that isn’t just one catch-all for any video gaming topic. So I’m not including the various !games@instance or !gaming@instance links....
I played: Butterfly's Poison; Blood Chains
I recently finished playing Butterfly's Poison; Blood Chains and thought I'd leave a review to get some conversation going in here....
Harry Turtledove’s The Road Not Taken (eyeofmidas.com)
Link takes you to a PDF on an external site, not to a page on Reddit....
Urusai.social - All the otaku content. None of the toxicity. (urusai.social)
We created https://urusai.social as a safe, cozy, English-first home for happy weebs and all of our varied interests - URUSAI! Social: All the otaku content. None of the toxicity. Come join us in our mission to be wholesome!...
Eastern cottontail photographed by Joe Grzybowski (media.kbin.cafe)
Beehaw on Lemmy: The long-term conundrum of staying here (beehaw.org)
A discussion happening over on beehaw about problems with federation and moderation, and on fundamental issues with Lemmy itself, and what would go into making a fork vs starting something new.
What's something that you're grateful for?
It could be something from today, the past week, or whatever. All things big or small are welcome too. I'm sitting outside today as a a part of my daily routine--it's nice and sunny out, and there's a gentle breeze which feels very relaxing. Doing so is pretty nice between the time I spend at the computer.
What's the difference between asking someone title or someone's pronouns ?
I never got why conservative got crazy if you specify a pronoun, but at the same time expect you to specify whether its, it’s Mr/Ms/Miss (and often don’t take Dr as an answer), looks like the same question
Removed Kbin.social communities
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Regal ringneck snake (media.kbin.cafe)
Why does everyone make such a fuss about privacy?
In the context of VPNs for example. Some VPNs store and provide information about what sites you go to third parties. Third parties analyze it and figure out what adds to show you. Hmm… then let them show me those adds they want to show me. I do hate adds as a whole and use an add blocker, thus. But I couldn’t care less what...
Instance Protectionism in the Threadiverse happens because of the Prisoner’s Dilemma (protecting one's own instance is currently more sensible than increasing overall discussion quality) (lemmy.world)
As a moderator of a Lemmy instance, you currently have two options to take: pushing users first to your local content or content from all instances you federate with. These options come with the costs seen in the picture. The moderator of another instance has the same choice. However, in this scenario, they will both always...
What otome isekai are you reading right now? (kbin.cafe)
I’ve finished all I currently have available to read. I am “currently reading” some incomplete series (or at least series whose English manga version I do not have access to):...
[Epic Games] 911 Operator (store.epicgames.com)
Store description:...
Can you be a fairy or some other fae-type creature in Fae Farm? | No, you can’t (kbin.cafe)
I think I heard someone mention something like this in real life, but I forgot who said it so I can’t ask them, and looking at the game’s website and Steam page description didn’t answer this question for me.
List of specific video game communities on the Threadiverse, feel free to comment with more (kbin.cafe)
When I mean “specific,” I mean things like something dedicated to a certain genre, a certain video game, to gaming suggestions, to asking whether you should buy a certain game… anything that isn’t just one catch-all for any video gaming topic. So I’m not including the various !games@instance or !gaming@instance links....