@deirdresm My core problem is that Israeli Jews and the Jewish Diaspora have an asymmetrical relationship: you scratch my back, you scratch mine.
I am 3/4 Ashkenazi Jewish, and on both the maternal and paternal lines, and went to Hebrew School at a very poorly attended Conservative synagogue in New Jersey. I am atheist. My relationship to Judaism is it is my people's "tribal" religion and a way of collecting our wisdoms, literature, stupidities, etc. Jewry is the term that matters here, though.