It’s always wild to me how much sex gay men have that they have to put out announcements like this, it often feels like monogamy is rare among them based on news coverage (not sure how true it actually is), whereas for my gay trans ass I’ve never even sought casual sex and hadn’t had any since I first transitioned in my teens and subsequently decided my virginity was to be no more, now my only partner is always my S.O., I figured it’d be the norm amongst queer people.
No. A lot of gay men have open relationships and a lot of queer people do too. Chosen monogamy can be great for many but it is not the norm. There really is no norm
Wild, so they practice polygamy? Gotta say I don’t know any gay men but I’ve never seen lesbians or bis, both cis and trans be anything but monogamous.
Is it an fwb network thing or like proper relationships but they just don’t care who their partner bangs on the side? I’m genuinely curious, not trying to come off as insulting.
Never heard of it, all the trans lesbian relationships I’ve been in with bi and les trans women have been completely monogamous. Maybe it’s just your group of friends?
Wild, maybe it’s a regional thing like I said with your group of friends. Fwiw I don’t think there’s such a thing as a trans community IRL btw, most trans people only know one or two other trans people at most. Like I know a few but they all don’t know each other etc.
Yeah that’s what I’m saying, maybe where you live just has a weird proportion of trans people who are fairly close-knit in comparison to other areas (like where I lived in both capital and smaller cities), especially because chances of bumping into another trans person IRL are next to nil because we are some <1% of the population, so perhaps it’s some kinda bay area free love culture you got going on there that just isn’t the experience of the average trans person. Godspeed in any case.
Yeah I can see how that would skew your perception a bit…
Average people don’t really get involved in “scenes” whether they’re queer or not, in fact I’m not even sure exactly what that actually entails.
They’re just people who happen to be queer, same as people who happen to be cis and/or straight, nothing else to it.
In my xp I’ve only ever dated one queer person who had like a fetish and it was light bondage, she def wasn’t in any “scenes” and only had monogamous transbian relationships tho she was technically bi iirc.
I’d say some of them practice polyamory but many are just in open relationships.
In open relationships they definitely have a primary relationship but they have hookups and often will develop regular connections. That’s often due to a safety of knowing that person’s tested and clean, as well as being easier to get into the headspace than with a complete stranger at times.
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