falcennial, 
we need to get better at handling people controlled by fear.
you can spot them easily. they are the ones whose ideology seems to be against shit. I talk like that a lot of the time, and guess why. it's the fear.
berating people who are controlled by fear isnt going to influence them, as you already know from experiences in both positions.
abusing their fear could influence them, but that's not worth doing.
I can identify them. but what's the best way to reach them in your experience?