The reason autistic people identify as LGBTQI more than allistic people is a mystery still but the theory that we "just don't give a shit" is strongly endorsed in the comments. #Autism#autistic#neurodiverse#lgbtqi#ActuallyAutistic
@ideogram anecdotally, I and some other autistic folks I know all have some struggle with understanding gender as a concept. It may contribute, I guess? It seems to be that part of social norms, and autistic people are known for struggling with understanding those, so probably just another side to it?
@olena@ideogram Gender is easy to understand as an #autistic. There are two sets of unwritten rules. One of them you are supposed to VERY MUCH and the other one you are supposed to NEVER. This is supposed to be very important to you for reasons and it's supposed to be obvious to you which set of behaviors you want to do. Violating these unwritten rules is punished even more severely than violating the regular unwritten rules because these are more important.
@BernieDoesIt@ideogram meantime, the official rulebook says that A can be anything and B can be anything, so you’re standing there wondering what makes A or B then
@olena@ideogram Of course the official rulebooks say that, because allistics have the annoying habit of saying what they wish was true and meaning something completely different. What they really mean is that the penalties for violating some of the rules have been reduced or eliminated, and you can easily figure out which rules those are by paying attention to who gets away with what.
@olena@ideogram That said, not everyone who is #autistic is like that. One of my #ActuallyAutistic children has a very strong sense of gender and asked me a lot of questions about what they* could do and not do when they were little. I don't relate at all, but it makes them happy and it doesn't seem to hurt them at all, so good for them.
@BernieDoesIt@olena@ideogram When my kid asked one of these questions around age ... 4? I just shrugged and told'em "why pick when you can have both"? I have no personal use for the "gender" notion, so why propagate it? I'm "male" in the same way I'm "a capricorn" - useless labels people stuck on me that have no bearing on who I actually am. I understand the words and where they come from and I understand that some people think they are 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑡 and as far as I can tell they bring no value to my table...
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