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toni

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This is the lemmy account of @toni

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toni,
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This was great. Got the chance to watch/listen to it earlier today with @dana

toni,
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I think by that he means the Tankies that see everything in a black and white ‘NATO bad, everything that opposes NATO good, including Russia’ kind of left wing populism, and the ‘Russia is good old capitalist oligarchy theocratic fascism just like we want to do here so we should support them’ right wing populism. From what I’ve heard I think Zizek is probably a lot more authoritarian than me (an anarchist, and a leftist), but if he has enough sense to oppose Tankies then I grudgingly accept him as a temporary ally in the fight against Russia.

Lemmy link posts not showing in Calckey

I noticed earlier today that @picard post about Sweet Darusya isn’t showing on calckey and neither is another post by @toni. It turns out that if you put a link into URL field when making a new post, it might not show outside lemmy. It means that anyone who follows the group on calckey will not see them and therefore can not...

toni,
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Okay, will bear in mind. These are reddit style link posts. But if they don’t even show up in Calckey (do they in mastodon? Anyone know?) then it will make it harder to boost and share. Technically we could link the lemmy post directly in a calckey/mastodon toot, but that kind of defeats the point… blobcat, notlikethiscry

toni,
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How did you find reading the text? My spouse has a Steamdeck, and we both have the Shadowrun trilogy, but we played them on linux laptops so much bigger screens. Love those games. Really hope Harebrained schemes take their learning from Battletech and give us as much more graphically updated Shadowrun game in the not too distant future. (ie Close up/more visually interesting camera angles when making moves, taking shots, casting spells etc in combat), rather than just being locked in isometric view all the time…)

toni,
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I use reading glasses, but can still manage small text so long as I’m wearing them. I don’t actually have a steamdeck of my own yet, although my spouse has one.

toni,
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I think we can make this group grow, but ALSO we should all follow the other group. That way there is no split. That other group is on a different server, so our group may reach servers that server isn’t federated with, either right now, or sometime in the future.

toni,
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@I_Like_Books I don’t think you need multiple accounts. I am following this group from Calckey, Lemmy and Friendica, but you can just do it with one. In Calckey you just see the new posts and replies in your timeline as they are posted. In Lemmy you get to browse the threads, and some threads can be pinned to be at the top of the list. In Friendica it is similar to Lemmy, but old threads are not automatically imported, so when you first follow you see nothing. Presumably any thread that has activity will then appear in Friendica., once the federated servers sync.

The Queer Guide to Finding a Fediverse Server.

Joining the fediverse can be a daunting proposition, and it is understandable that many end up on larger more centralised servers that are easier to find. I have also had some bad experience with smaller servers also. The first one I arrived on was very quiet, almost inactive, and I should have taken that as a warning sign....

toni,
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Thanks. I'm sure that is just oversight on the admin here's part. I've seen no indication from either that they are tankie friendly. I'll let them know. I'll also add beehaw.org to the list.

toni,
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Thanks. I have added it to the list.

toni,
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Thanks. Have added it.

toni,
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rofl

toni,
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It already does include chaosfem.tw. Never heard of toot.cat, so adding now. I was aware that eightpoint and tech.lgbt defedded over something, but not any others. My instance still federates with eightpoint and I still have friends there. Everyone there seems chill so it seems a bit odd.

toni,
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From what I understand Laurelai was booted from eightpoint though, so the fact eightpoint is still defederated is a point of some other drama.

toni,
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Since the abuser is no longer there, and there is no problems with abusive behaviour or rules from that instance, continued defederation seems a bit strong, especially when there are far worse instances everyone is still federated with (stux, gargamel, and all the meta 'wait and see' sell outs etc). At this point it seems that it is just a grudge and bad blood between instance admins, and it is users that suffer the consequences.

toni,
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Thanks, that is interesting. However since it remains unfederated, I won’t confuse people by putting it in the fediverse guide. I am glad you have included it as a reply though.

toni,
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Thanks, have added it. Sorry for delay, had a busy month.

toni,
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Thanks for the updated. I have edited the post to reflect the latest information.

toni,
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You are right not to want answers along the lines of 'you are trans' or 'you are not trans'. You are right that you are the only person that can answer that. As a non-binary trans woman, I can tell you that 'being trans' isn't a uniform experience that can be easilly put in neatly defined boxes with easy to recognise checkboxes to tick off.

Even if it turns out you are cisgendered, it is good that you are questioning gender. Some of what we think about as 'gender' is social expectations that are entirely toxic. And more cisgendered men should question those gender norms.

Then you have femboys, and other cisgendered men that have a gender non conforming expression in terms of presentation, clothing, hairstyles and makeup. Expression is not identity. Of course some femboys are nonbinary, genderfluid, trans men, trans masc or demi boys. But most nonbinary, genderfluid, trans men, trans masc or demi boys are not femboys. Again, identity is not expression.

Ultimately all you can do is work out what makes you happy. Does the thought of being a woman spark joy? Does the thought of being neither man or woman (agender) spark joy? Does the thought of being both man and woman spark joy? Or man and agender? Or woman and agender? Or being masc but not quite a man (demiboy)? Or the thought of being almost a woman but not quite (transfem)?

Answering those questions won't give you a definitive answer, just a starting point for exploration. As you explore you may find your answers to those questions change as you pilot yourself and your life towards where you want to be.

toni,
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I kinda feel 'Toni' fits somewhere between these, but maybe that is just me.

toni,
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Huh. Pride day isn't until 22nd July here, so will have to wait and see. Will be my first since transition.

toni,
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Will have to make it down to Edinburgh Pride one year. This year will just being doing the Highland Pride here in Inverness on July 22nd.

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